would you stop interacting with that person or would you continue interacting with him even though that might tarnish your reputation in the minds of some other people you might not know much.
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in what way is their reputation bad? someone can have a good personal reputation among coworkers, and friends/classmates, but a bad one among family members/"laug"..
would you stop interacting with that person or would you continue interacting with him even though that might tarnish your reputation in the minds of some other people you might not know much.
Then he is not your friend he is your enemy like snake, leave him or kill him..
you have respect and you have full rights to protect your respect.. so its upto you what decision you take.
Then he is not your friend he is your enemy like snake, leave him or kill him.. you have respect and you have full rights to protect your respect.. so its upto you what decision you take.
but he is not doing anything. its the people who, by association with the said person, think you are bad too.
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try clearin the name of your friend and if your friends reputation is bad due to some reasons which are not true then dont leave your friend or you'll be a dhokebaaz...if your friend is good then support and stand by him/her no matter what
would you stop interacting with that person or would you continue interacting with him even though that might tarnish your reputation in the minds of some other people you might not know much.
If your own reputation is a more positive one, perhaps you could help your friend with his.
The thing is that we have to be careful with rumors. You might hear that a person has a bad reputation, but you might not know all the details of that individual's personal life. And perhaps upon knowing the truth, you'll find that this person is not bad at all.
Look at the title of your thread. You've referred to this guy as your "friend." I doubt that you would take out the time in your life to talk to him if he was such a bad person. Is he complaining about his bad reputation? Are the things people saying about him hurting him? Do you see goodness in him? Then, when you see him doing something positive, encourage him. And when you are surrounded by other people.....SAY POSITIVE things about him to others. People are more likely to trust you. And this can help raise him in the eyes of others and boost his confidence and motivation to improve himself. Just a thought.
I'd never leave a friend for negative reputation which that friend doesn't deserve. It's happened to me though, after running away and returning back home, nobody really wanted to be my friend anymore. Yet if I could choose, I would have done it again, I don't regret that decision at all. Now I do have a negative reputation, but inside my home my life is nice which I never could have had, if I woudn't have ran away.
I've often had heard things against people I liked, but I always used to refuse to treat those people negatively because of that. Not unless I had seen my friend really do something awful. No matter what people would say.
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A man is known by the company he keeps.
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One of my good frndz is usually center of attention when bunch of us hang out together. Others dont but sometimes I make fun of him. He does make fun of other frnds ... But he rarely picks on me. I just noticed that lately i have start picking on him alot. He is a really good frnd and he has something different to say abt most topics. I really appritiate his words, enjoy his company and i have nuthing against his reputation.
I hope he gets the humor and doesnt think that i have problem with his reputation. Maybe ur frnd is thinkin (hopin) same ?
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one of my friend - I am scared of reputation when I am with her - cause all she likes to talk about is something I would NOT be talking about with anyone so openly. I am conservative she is not - IN TALKS ONLY I MEAN. So ye I do get scared what if people think I am like her.
BUT she is really cool! It’s her fun talk that can get “us girls” in trouble - if someone want to point fingers. 
A man is known by the company he keeps.
My parents used to say that all the time, when while growing up they didn't like it if I became best friends with a gauree, but we do have gauray family friends , back then we had them and even now! Funny!
I do think there is some truth in it, but not always. Our Prophet (saww) for example was often kind and polite towards non-Muslims, they sometimes visited. It doesn't mean he was like those non-Muslims of course. :)
People can like someone completely different from their own character, it doesn't mean we are like all the people who we associate with. What if you have Hindu friends, Christian friends, atheïst friends, it doesn't mean that you are exactly like all of them just because you visit them or perhaps even are best friends with them. :) You can be still Muslim and have an Islamic way of life, but yet have Hindu, Christian and atheïst friends.
I used to have a friend like that. By being with her I got used to her kind of behaviour. I think it was more show off though, trying to be the female who isn’t afraid to say stuff. 
My parents used to say that all the time, when while growing up they didn't like it if I became best friends with a gauree, but we do have gauray family friends , back then we had them and even now! Funny!
I do think there is some truth in it, but not always. Our Prophet (saww) for example was often kind and polite towards non-Muslims, they sometimes visited. It doesn't mean he was like those non-Muslims of course. :)
People can like someone completely different from their own character, it doesn't mean we are like all the people who we associate with. What if you have Hindu friends, Christian friends, atheïst friends,** it doesn't mean that you are exactly like all of them just because you visit them or perhaps even are best friends with them. **:) You can be still Muslim and have an Islamic way of life, but yet have Hindu, Christian and atheïst friends.
Being like them and known by them are two different things.
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it depends what the reason is. why do they have a bad reputation. if i was their friend, i would try to help them.
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I can never be good friends with a person who is involved in things that I don't agree with. Of course there will tons of acquaintances like that but actually being a good friend of such a person is a different matter. You are usually good friends with people who more or less share the same values as you. So how can someone who constantly goes against those values be a good friend?
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If a man is known by the company he keeps then what of those who hung out with Mandela? A terrorist for 40 years and then a hero for the rest.
Janaan if your friend backs you, treats you well and shows respect to you and your family then **** the world as long as he does right by you.
My parents used to say that all the time, when while growing up they didn't like it if I became best friends with a gauree, but we do have gauray family friends , back then we had them and even now! Funny!
I do think there is some truth in it, but not always. Our Prophet (saww) for example was often kind and polite towards non-Muslims, they sometimes visited. It doesn't mean he was like those non-Muslims of course. :)
People can like someone completely different from their own character, it doesn't mean we are like all the people who we associate with. What if you have Hindu friends, Christian friends, atheïst friends, it doesn't mean that you are exactly like all of them just because you visit them or perhaps even are best friends with them. :) You can be still Muslim and have an Islamic way of life, but yet have Hindu, Christian and atheïst friends.
Goray, Christians, Hindu, Atheist are bad people ??? NO, They are not. Someone's religion doesn't define if he is a good person or bad. But its our basic moral ethics that define that.
The meaning of the phrase 'A man is known by the company he keeps' is that you adopt things from the people around you. If you don't smoke but all the friends around you smoke, than there is a good chance that you might also start smoking. Similarly, if you have friends who are pessimistic than it won't be a surprise if you start thinking like them.
I hope I have made myself clear.
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It really depends on how influential this person is. Do you feel compelled to get involved with some of his activities when you are around him? Do you find yourself thinking about/doing things that you know are wrong? I tell my kids that they cannot usually change the personalities of the people around them, and to make sure that the people they keep closest to them have similar values and morals. It is easier to say no to sex, alcohol, and other sinful behavior if you avoid it in the first place.
Goray, Christians, Hindu, Atheist are bad people ??? NO, They are not. Someone's religion doesn't define if he is a good person or bad. But its our basic moral ethics that define that.
The meaning of the phrase 'A man is known by the company he keeps' is that you adopt things from the people around you. If you don't smoke but all the friends around you smoke, than there is a good chance that you might also start smoking. Similarly, if you have friends who are pessimistic than it won't be a surprise if you start thinking like them.
I hope I have made myself clear.
Yes, you made it clear. I understand better what you mean now.