If one has a problem with their MIL...

[S_Punk]

Re: If one has a problem with their MIL…

@Demesne

I feel they should do whatever is necessary to gain control of emotions and keep behaving normally in front of spouse and inlaws. This might be talking it out with a trusted friend or family member who will not ever take the situation further or talk about it in turn to anyone else.
Sometimes people need to vent and let go of excess righteous emotion. This anger should not be bottled up inside if the person is going to begin showing resentment.
The ultimate motive is to make your own life as smooth and problem free as you can and to do whatever it takes which is in your own control to do so.

That’s interesting. So you would rather share whatever anger/pent up frustration you have towards your in-laws with your husband or a family member?
I would agree with you in making one’s life as smooth as possible, but who better to soothe a problem with your in-laws than your husband? Wouldn’t he be a better option to talk to rather than a friend, who probably can’t understand your situation as well as he would.
And when I mean share a problem or whatever, I’m not saying a woman should go to her husband and say “wow your mom sucks” - obviously there’s a way and a manner to say everything. Of course you should take into consideration it’s his mom etc.