If marriage is half your dean, then...

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Re: If marriage is half your dean, then…

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Where does that leave single people? For example, a woman who was married to a terrible man for several years so she wasn’t able to obtain any reward from allah during her marriage because if the constant fights. Then when she is divorced, again how would she obtain any reward? It is so easy for a married couple to get reward from allah. The simple act of holding hands ia considered sadaqqa. It is very easy for a man and woman, who get along, love one another and generally have a good relationship, to continue to receive reward from allah. A couple in a bad relationship won’t, because they fight. Again, after a divorce, you are unable to complete half your dean because you are single. Is there any reward for enduring hardship as a single mother? How do you get all those rewards that married people get easily without even thinking about it as a single person?

Mr armughal and redvelvet have given excellent answers to your questions in their posts, however I think Sister most of your questions will also be answered if you read about or listen to the story of Hazrat Rabia Basri Rehmatullah Elahe available also in youtube:

(36) Story of Hazrat Rabia Basria( I visited her grave in Jerusalem)

Masha Allah She lived an exemplary life, and her grave is in Jerusalem…

the best example of her devotion to Allah SWT is indicated in one of her prayers :

She prayed:

O God! If I worship You for fear of Hell, burn me in Hell
and if I worship You in hope of Paradise, exclude me from Paradise.
But if I worship You for Your Own sake,
grudge me not Your everlasting Beauty.[6]