There is an article in a local bridal magazine here in Dallas called “If I could do it again..” where girls who were recently married share what they wouldve done different if they could. I think this is a great thread topic!
Former brides please share regrets and do-overs to give new brides any advice! They may be just small changes, or big decisions you wish you could change..
Thank you in advance 
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hmmm If I could do it again then I would try to enjoy each and every moment a whole lot more ! Seriously the time flies by so quickly and then the whole event is over :(. So word of advice, don't get stuck worrying about small pesky things and enjoy the time with your family and definitely try to get lots of rest. I was bubbling with so much anxiety and excitement that the last few days before my wedding i was getting very little sleep and I became irritable as well , which is also something I regret sigh. Don't become a bridezilla! lol
enjoy the rasams and silly little traditions and go with the flow :)
Also, I regret being sick on my valima! ugh seriously i wish I could have my valima again.
I just miss my wedding all together. It went by sooooo fast.
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hehe.. im really afraid of not being able to sleep a wink the whole wedding week. (lack of sleep really affects the quality of the next day!) Making a mental note of having some sleeping pills on me at all times that week! lol
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haha, no, i wont recommend sleeping pills , those are scary!
Yes lack of sleep for days resulted in me looking like a zombie the day after my wedding. So when my khalas came over they were like why aren't you dressed. Then I was forced to dress up. So yea definitely try to get enough sleep, drink lots of water and don't be stupid like me the day after your wedding lol. I was so exhausted the next day that I didn't care to dress up, do may hair properly or anything. hmm now that I think about it, I wonder how I looked lol.
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I really hope no one says: "Choose a new groom" ...... lol
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LOL .... ^^
i hope too but thats a really good one malika
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I hope not too many of " I wish I had not skimped on hiring a decent photographer" :)
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if i could,I would be having an even simpler wedding with a small nikah function and a simple reception and making a much simpler wedding dress because none of these matter at ALL once the event is over and i badly feel it was all a waste of time and money deciding about it and running after them for months.
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^ Took the words right outta my mouth
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if i could,I would be having an even simpler wedding with a small nikah function and a simple reception and making a much simpler wedding dress because none of these matter at ALL once the event is over and i badly feel it was all a waste of time and money deciding about it and running after them for months.
why is it a waste of time and money?
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nothing spent on those 2-3 days is of any use ! fazool kharchi kay liay gunaah alag 
found this somewhere : (I dont intend to de-rail this thread though)
Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “The most blessed nikah is the one with the least expenses.” [Bayhaqi]
Commentary: Today, the youth of many men and women is destroyed because they cannot afford the lavish weddings that have become the standard. They do not possess, in terms of dowry or mahr, what society says they must give in order to get married. Others get into debt for extravagant wedding functions. Even those who can afford lavish weddings are responsible for the wastage involved, while the money could have been put to so much better use. To make matters worse, the resulting marriage is often not even a successful one. In order to make our weddings more blessed we need to abandon these customs, and on such occasions take a lesson from the simple nikah of Fatima (radi allahu anha) whose dowry was one water-bag and one bed.
Also, unfortunately today we notice the norms of culture take precedence over those rules and guidlines set by Allah (subhana wa ta’ala). But we need to follow Islam and Allah’s guidelines on the most important day- our wedding day! For example, we see brothers’ letting their wives dress extravagantly and get decked out, and sit on a stage to be seen by all. We need to have some respect for ourselves, our spouses, and even if we don’t, fear Allah’s punishment and don’t make our new wife/husband an object to be stared at.
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I do not want to spend too much but my mom just can not stop herself because I am the only girl in my khandaan
arghhh
wht do i do??
I rather save tht money and invest in a house or something
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I wouldn't change anything on my wedding day alhamdulillah. it was perfect mashaallah :)
girls, just enjoy the party!
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If I could change one thing, I wish I'd been more certain about what I wanted from my photoshoot, I'm happy with the photos but if I'd paid a bit more attention and done some prep on the kind of shots I wanted I could have had a bit more variety.
If I could add one extra thing element to the day, I'd have added ended it all with a big professional fireworks display
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photographer
a good one
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photographer
a good one
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If I could change one thing, I wish I'd been more certain about what I wanted from my photoshoot, I'm happy with the photos but if I'd paid a bit more attention and done some prep on the kind of shots I wanted I could have had a bit more variety.
If I could add one extra thing element to the day, I'd have added ended it all with a big professional fireworks display
which photoshoot? bridal portraits or Day of pics? or engagement pics?
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which photoshoot? bridal portraits or Day of pics? or engagement pics?
all of them really! I've never been a posey posey kinda girl so all my photos on the day were quite natural poses and straightforward. I've since seen other people's wedding photos and thought to myself "why didn't I do a few shots like that?"
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ya we had our engagement pictures taken, and the photographer had suggested we have 3 outfits, 3 looks, 3 scene changes. we found our first two outfits and loved them. but then for the third one i was NOT happy with my outfit, but wore it anyway. i wish i would have just done 2 looks instead of forcing the third one and having a set of all these pictures which i dont like at all :/
havent had any other regrets yet, bc i havent had any other events yet! so my regret prob sounds trivial lol ;)