Chill people. A little bit of hanky panky is OK. gets the guy motivated to propose faster and get married. It's all part of the natural progression. Don't fight nature.
Disclaimer: I do not intend on laying next to you in your grave.
OR he could turn around and say, I don't feel enough chemistry with you so I don't think this is gonna work out
Either way its a risk, don't do it
And I just realized that ^ could be argued but whatever, tell him to put a ring on it IF YOU LIKE IT THEN YOU BETTER PUT A RING ON IT
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This line said it all.. I rest my case without even starting it.. lol
If he is my fiance, he needs to realize his place isnt official at all. So until its official, he needs to watch himself and realize nothing is set in stone.
If you feel uncomfortable, talk to him nicely about it. He will respect you more for it.
you must both wear a burqa when you see each other…and i better see that niqaab covering everything missy! mhhhhhhhhhhhhm…NO EYE MAKEUP TO SEDUCE HIM either!
but i was just wondering what do unmarried couples do these days. like do you hold hands, make out, see each other without letting your parents know.. and such.
Huh?
I would seriously recommend nothing. These guys are skanks. They will take advantage of you first opportunity, then lose respect for you, then dump you, then talk behind your back about what a behuda person you are. Our community, being ad intelligent and caring as it is, will give the poor innocent laadla the benefit ofthe doubt and next thing you know, people will be calling you a whore. I've seen that happen with as little as hand holding.
Just let him know his interview process is not yet over until the nikkah. Until then, any level of skanky behavior is grounds for you dumping his arse on the curbside. That'll hold his penis for a while.
totally agree with this person. It does feel right at the same time, but later if Allah forbid your relationship doesn’t work out, you will regret it. And it’s def not worth the punishment from Allah. Wait till ur relationship is halal for all this stuff. For now, focus on communication, understanding one another, discussing what you expect out of each other, etc. This is what’s important! If you guys think you’re ready, then do nikkah!
if he wants anything physical then that's a huge red flag if you ask me. if he really respects and loves you then he wouldn't want to put you in an uncomfortable situation or push you to do something wrong in the first place.
it makes you wonder; if he's so impatient / can't control himself when he's engaged and will be married soon, who is to say that he didn't mess around in the past 20-odd years of his life? a worrying sign if you ask me.
Its rare for any physical interaction b.w you and your fiance prior to the wedding. Even holding hands for that matter..bear in mind Im talking about an arranged marraige...in this case, your interaction is limited to phone calls, text messages, emails, and meetings with someone else always present.,...ie older sister, aunt etc...and these are usually at each others house..thats it.
Now if its not an arranged marraige...but rather a 'love marraige'...and the dulha and dulhan have already 'got it on'....then maybe the interaction would be different...I have no clue...I would assume though that they would still limit the public physical interaction as it would raise eyebrows and in some cases....blood preassure too!
yea, but how are you supposed to walk into a seedy sex shop? and if you order online, how are you supposed to explain to your parents that you bought a vibrating stick?
yea, but how are you supposed to walk into a seedy sex shop? and if you order online, how are you supposed to explain to your parents that you bought a vibrating stick?
Funny thing with "some" desi girls is that they take great care not to get physical with fiance. And fiance only, while they are lot more open "ahem, ahem" with other guys.
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