If everything really does happen for a reason?

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Re: If everything really does happen for a reason?

@ZareenKhan

Aww thank you so very much for such a detailed and helpful reply.

See what i am saying here is not what i m saying to her. I am doing my best to get her out of this negativity by making her understand that things happen and one has to take them and move on. You can’t challenge other person’s right to choose what they want to no matter how absurb it may seem.

She found out the reason for rejection thru the rishta wali aunty who told them that this is what the guys mother said but she herself was left confused cuz she also didnt see anything FAT abt the girl. Khair in the end she said this family just has too much expectations which was ok but now that my frnd saw the girl they finally selected she feels shattered. I dont think its a case of insecurity cuz she is a very confident girl dont know why she just got stuck at this. Thats precisely why i feel all the more bad for her cuz she is sane girl, not someone who is dreamer n would go all filmy at such situations.

Again, you never know. The “she’s too fat” might ONLY be the opinion of the guy’s mom…and not the guy’s. He could have rejected her based on something else. Or maybe the mom was lying…perhaps she didn’t like your friend’s family…and thought it would be “rude” to give that as a reason…and decided to instead say she was “fat.” The “rejection” reason is being delivered by a third party (rishta aunty)…so many things get lost in translation…misunderstandings, etc. And even if you hear the reason directly from the guy and his family, the still may not be honest. For all you know…and sorry if this sounds crude…the guy may have even chosen the other girl because she has a bigger breast size. You friend needs to understand she’ll never know the reason…better to move on. A negative/depressed attitude is going to get in the way of her daily routines (more positive activities/relationships/even other rishtas).