If your Pre-K teacher complains a lot about your child then whose fault is it? Teacher’s or child’s. If child is listening at home and not at school what is reason behind it? 
If one change school is it gonna solve the problem?:aq:
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is pre-k teacher complaining about all the kids to their parents? if yes then the issue is with her. if no then the kid may be having some difficulties adjusting in. In any case, ask her for what she recommends as a solution. Teachers, usually, dont just complain. They also suggest a solution
What if she only whines whines and whines and never give a solution :aq: And it seems like she had enough with a child and she is really angry at the child.
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Uz - is she whinning face to face? or in the notes that they send home for parents?
I would write and talk to her about you don't see this behavior at home.
Also talk to you child to get some perspective on what's going on in the classroom
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You gotta do some real thinking here...why would the teacher whine abt the kid without a reason? its only a kid and not an adult otherwise there cud have been some behavioral issues and what not.
demanding a solution is your right, especially if kid is not portraying the same behavior at home. You dont send your kid to Pre-K so he could become a scientist. You send him/her to pre-k so the kid can start learning social behavior. That means that teacher is responsible for some of his/her behavior.
If that’s really true, that’s very unprofessional. I’d look for another school.
Uz - is she whinning face to face? or in the notes that they send home for parents?
I would write and talk to her about you don't see this behavior at home.
Also talk to you child to get some perspective on what's going on in the classroom
She is whining face to face NJ and kid is always saying that why teachers are so mean?
On day I remember she said this is the face only mom can love.
PS. I asked him many times he is not alone there are some consequences like once some child squished his lunch and then he reacted .
On day I remember she said this is the face only mom can love. .
that was pretty rude to say that, unless she was talking about a specific face expression and not the facial features.
You gotta do some real thinking here...why would the teacher whine abt the kid without a reason? its only a kid and not an adult otherwise there cud have been some behavioral issues and what not.
Some kids are hyper but they don't fix the problem they just keep saying to me he is giving us hard time and blah blah without any solutions.
demanding a solution is your right, especially if kid is not portraying the same behavior at home. You dont send your kid to Pre-K so he could become a scientist. You send him/her to pre-k so the kid can start learning social behavior. That means that teacher is responsible for some of his/her behavior.
The main thing is they keep saying negative things in front of him and he is like I am not good at all.
If that's really true, that's very unprofessional. I'd look for another school.
Thats what I am thinking also
On day I remember she said this is the face only mom can love.
That's just very rude.
Can you elaborate on what type of complains you get?
Most of the time I have seen teachers talk to parents when they come to pick up after school - that is to reinforce good behavior at home with parents supervision, so the child can improve his behavior.
If your child is good at home and the teacher complains, then REQUEST that you can be allowed to WATCH the child in class the next day. Which means, you will be observing the child's behavior but without the child knowing you are there. Like sit at the spot where you won't be noticed by the child.
It's really not good for the child if he keeps hearing teacher say things to his face. Act NOW!
this is bad...you should maybe talk to the headteacher and tell her that you have concerns and that what the teacher is telling you is not reflective of your childs personality, also ask classroom assistant and lunch time supervisor and see if they all feel the same way about your child...
it is worrying because a child can so easily get labelled as problematic and then he will have this reputation throughout his schooling, and he will always act this way as he is 'expected' to by all those around him.
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umm if the teacher is saying such stuff shouldnt it be brought to the attention of some higher authority?
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Hey UZ...sorry to hear about this. A good pre-k teacher would not act like this. If there is a problem, the teacher will tell the parent about the problem, how it is resolved at school and that a similar approach should be taken at home to reinforce. It sounds like this teacher is vindictive about whatever she feels is the bad behavior and takes it out on the poor kid instead of helping him overcome.
Is he ready for pre-k? Does he act out because he doesnt want to be there? There are many ways to deal with this, make a little photo album with pictures of mommy and home. Depending on the exact issue(s), there are much better ways to deal with and resolve them.
I'd find a different teacher or school before it really affects your little guy and makes him hate school right from the start.
Good luck!
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Have you had a private interview with the teacher?
Have you requested an interview with the teacher and the principal of the school?
If your child is hyper and you acknowledge this then there may be certain steps that you need to take to help him adjust to the school environment.
Where do you live? In USA or elsewhere?
There has to be more to this......
That's just very rude.
Can you elaborate on what type of complains you get?
Most of the time I have seen teachers talk to parents when they come to pick up after school - that is to reinforce good behavior at home with parents supervision, so the child can improve his behavior.
If your child is good at home and the teacher complains, then REQUEST that you can be allowed to WATCH the child in class the next day. Which means, you will be observing the child's behavior but without the child knowing you are there. Like sit at the spot where you won't be noticed by the child.
It's really not good for the child if he keeps hearing teacher say things to his face. Act NOW!
NJ most complains are about recess time and eating time when he is fooling around.Nj masti to be honest he is a hyper kid but if I am managing at home and he sits with me and complete his homework then teacher should do that too.Instead of saying that he is too much all we can do is take away some privillages but still he doesn't listen.And last meeting was not really good. It was too much for me to handle.
this is bad...you should maybe talk to the headteacher and tell her that you have concerns and that what the teacher is telling you is not reflective of your childs personality, also ask classroom assistant and lunch time supervisor and see if they all feel the same way about your child...
it is worrying because a child can so easily get labelled as problematic and then he will have this reputation throughout his schooling, and he will always act this way as he is 'expected' to by all those around him.
Payari once I will get him to another school I will tell the principal.
umm if the teacher is saying such stuff shouldnt it be brought to the attention of some higher authority?
I will soon Lifey
Hey UZ...sorry to hear about this. A good pre-k teacher would not act like this. If there is a problem, the teacher will tell the parent about the problem, how it is resolved at school and that a similar approach should be taken at home to reinforce. It sounds like this teacher is vindictive about whatever she feels is the bad behavior and takes it out on the poor kid instead of helping him overcome.
Is he ready for pre-k? Does he act out because he doesnt want to be there? There are many ways to deal with this, make a little photo album with pictures of mommy and home. Depending on the exact issue(s), there are much better ways to deal with and resolve them.
I'd find a different teacher or school before it really affects your little guy and makes him hate school right from the start.
Good luck!
Mama u have defined it well, the teacher is not giving me any solution and she is just frustrated too, I know sometimes its really hard to deal with hyper kids but still I am dealing with him and she is suppose to tell me things too.But she is tired of him and because of her my kid is not at all happy at school.
PS. mama he is ready for school because he went to school when he was 3 and he was really happy there, he still tells me mama I miss my Casy school.(the name of the school)
Have you had a private interview with the teacher? Have you requested an interview with the teacher and the principal of the school?
If your child is hyper and you acknowledge this then there may be certain steps that you need to take to help him adjust to the school environment.
Where do you live? In USA or elsewhere?
There has to be more to this......
Muzna its too early to tell that he is hyper active kid, I talk to school psychologist about it and she told me he is just 4 and kids at that age are usually hyper, now I am gonna talk to her tomorrow again with my child 's problem and about teacher's behavior. I live in USA and teacher is an American.
Muzna one more question what should I ask in private interview with teacher and principal?
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Well...it sounds like you are having conversations with the right people but it is very difficult to guide you without knowing in detail what you have already discussed and what they have told you.
You mentioned in one post:
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most complains are about recess time and eating time when he is fooling around.......to be honest he is a hyper kid but if I am managing at home and he sits with me and complete his homework then teacher should do that too
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If this is true then I would suggest that your child might have a problem focusing on what is required of him at any given time.....but that is not unusual for a 4 year old.......however, a teacher will definitely not have time to spend one on one with any child.
If the teacher is saying that he requires this sort of attention and if you are confirming this with what you see at home then perhaps there is more to be looked into. Perhaps a formal assesment would do some good.
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^yes, thats a great point Muzna. Teachers cannot spend one-on-one time with any particular child so the children need to adapt to larger group settings. Since the current teacher has lost patience, your best bet may be to find another school, preferably one that will have a smaller class size and a more empathetic teacher?
The formal assessment and diagnosis for ADHD comes at a later age. Some say it cannot be diagnosed before age 5 (in kindergarten), some say age 7. Your son may just need to learn how to interact better during the free times in large group settings. Lunch and recess times give the kids more freedom to fool around than the structured times when they have a task to accomplish. Like sit and listen to a story. Make a drawing. Do an art project. It sounds like your son is successful during structured times? A child who is truly "hyperactive" would not be successful, would not be able to attend a task to completion. So it sounds more like he just needs to learn to temper his playfulness at mealtime and his mischeviousness at recess. A smaller group with an empathetic teacher would go a long way in helping him at that.
Mama and Muzna its already a class of 15 children with 2 teachers. But today I talked to school nurse she told me these teachers are amazing but may be there is some miscommunication going between you and teachers, talk to them. And then she told me some children work better with incentives instead of consequences. Well I talked to Mrs.G today in private. She told me according to my evaluation he is not ADD because he is academically good and he follows certain rules.As mama of 3 mentioned above he is only 4 and taking little bit time to settle down. I talked to teacher if you pay more attention and give me suggestions too instead of complaining then may be I will be able to help H in home. It was a long discussion but it ended well, and I am giving it 2 more weeks how it goes then I'll decide to change school.