Re: idher kay bachayy
Oh
if i say something in english apparently it can sound rude because of it,however if my cousin in pak, says the same words in URDU she comes off better..
whyyyyyyy?
Don't know how to explain it. But the cadence of a language or the way that it flows and sounds can vary.
For example...say something in Urdu and it can sound graceful. Say the same thing in Punjabi.......and it can sound as rough as a gaali.
I know we always get the oodhar ke bachay are the best. idhar ke bachay have no tameez and respect. I find that when oodhar ke bachay do something like elope or have a boyfriend its forgiven and forgotten much more quickly versus someone who was born and bred in the west they blame it all on modernization, and label it with a "what did you expect attitude".
'aap tp phir bohat gorion se set ho ge scene sheen ho ga'
let me guess.
Lahore?
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Nop Islamabad
oops i forgot
in lahore its like
*kinia bachiyan rakhiyan ne?
*
Ok i'm done flooding for the day :D nite nite!
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The funny thing is - despite 'idhar ke bachey kaise bhi hoon' if the same people were given the opportunity any minute to send their kids abroad for a better opportunity - they'd drop e verything and do so lol..
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this generalization thing between kids born/brought up abroad compared to the ones in pak is sooo true. Once my fiance's 20 yr old younger brother said something rude to his dad without realizing it and his dad slapped him across the face..in front of his entire family as they were having some family dinner. His bro kinda just looked down and didnt say a word as his dad screamed at him. Anyways, so his khala goes "beta, tum log to apne parents ki bohot ezat kartay ho kyon kee tum log pakistan mein paida howe ho agar koye Canadian born bacha hota to for sure apne dad say argue karta n blah blah blah". My fiance's family came here like 10 yrs ago.. anyways, so my fiance told me wat she said and that pissed me off to the max cuz I was born in Canada and I will NEVER answer back to my parents even if they beat me in front of others. I know how to respect my parents and even at 23 I am still afraid to talk back to them. I was thinking like wtf I was born here too so by saying that she is basically implying that I have no respect either and I had a HUGE argument with my fiance abt it. Wats funny is that his khala's family only came to Canada 3 yrs ago and already her 15 year old..pakistani born and raised.."tameez wala, obedient" son is dating a girl and effing around..shows me lot! I hate people that tend to make comparisons between people from abroad and back home and try to imply that kids back home r angels.. GRR!
it’s called boy-talk. theres is no serious implication behind such questions.
nadz. bachay idher k houn ya udher k, sudhr kam rahay hain aur bigar ziada 
so worry nawt … koi apko tang nahi ker raha
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Yes we know hence the laughing smiley :pcg:
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Desis living in Pakistan are holding onto this image of "we're so pristine". Because they don't have much else to boast of. How are those families supposed to compete with people raised abroad for rishtas, jobs, friendships, etc? Their selling point is this idea that somehow they are better people even though the amount of lawlessness and disrespect for other humans is so evident in pakistan and also more prevalent.
I don't know why people fool themselves into thinking the people left there are so pristine given their crime rate, the amount of outright greed, the inderground secret activities, the amount of crime and poor morals even at the childhood level. Almost every kid in school has their assignments done/helped by elder members of the family. It's common, so what pristine character are we talking about. I find more honest seedhay people abroad. Pakistan is too filled with chors.
i see a PCG. and that is definitely not smiling 
Hi PCG 
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Ab meri hansi ka to mazaq to na karain na aap :(
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one thing that gets on my wick is how wallatii bache are percieved in dramas!!!!!! we're not all chain smoking, drug addicted, beer waving hippies u know!!! grrr...
“hansi” ka mein apki kya mazaq uraoungi? pehle mujhay aap k ****-jammed expression say to lutf-andoz honay dain 
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Yeh aap nay ‘*’ koi nai language eejaad ki hai?
You just nominated your threads to be spammed by me 
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lol a coalition of abroad raised Pakistani youth needs to be formed.. I agree with the person who wrote how overseas Pakistani kids are portrayed in Pakistani dramas !!
Look - as far as im concerned, good and bad type of kids reside everywhere, it's not about where u live, its about ur brining up by ur parents and your self character..
Just to add for the mirch masala :P at least most overseas Pakistani kids, do more housework at home rather then screaming on top of their lungs to a maasi if she is sweeping the floor on a saturday morning AKA saw that at my cousins plce in pak and boy was it a shock !
differences in kids who grow up in the west/east.
I know/see/heard kids that grow up in western society...inc me, tend not to have as much tameez as ou counterparts in pakistan....now im not tlaking of people my age...some are, some arent, im talking of the new kids on the block...as in all 18yr old and under....and esp the toddlers to teens....kids are rude to their parents, hold a attitude generally, dont respect as much as they should towards their elders or parents......and have a i can do whatever i want attitude....
i have yet to see such batameezi in our pakistani families abroad.....not saying they all must be angels....but am sure batameezi to parents isnt common there..is it?
ive seen with my own eyes for eg my hubbies mum say something to her kids or him and they dont say uff....yet my own brother will perhaps not outright rude, but wont carry his tameez, he will just mumble something as 18 yr olds do, and lose patience quickly..if asked a questions twice..
how to deal with this? i am also from the uk and admitedly im not a spokesman for tameez, but i can see it now, and i hate the fact that we are so proud of our freedoms and rights and privelges here in the uk/amrica.....however we have forgotten our manners/respect towards our parents/elders....
how right am i?
and what are your opinions..obviously dont want to generalise, as i know many brit borns, who well respect their parents etc...
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de ja vu
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/426231-idher-kay-bachayy.html
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Merged.