I just came across this idea today, i felt it very appealing and in accordance with the islamic as well as our cultural values.
I won’t be able to implement it as my wedding is already planned but i would like the guys here reading this thread to promote it if they like it.
In this time of super inflation, where everytime we see our pockets only to find out that it has shrunk again. I remember as told be our parents that weddings functions in those days used to continue for atleast a week. Now they shrunk to 3 functions, I would recommend another shrink to 2.
I feel that there should be Mehndi/mayoon/nikkah(but not barrat or rukhsati) on the first day that should be sponsored by the bride’s faimly. The second day the groom should invite his family and the family of bride to the dinner procession of walima at brides house(all expenses to be beared by the groom) and rukhsati should take place on that day.
I hope I am able to explain myself… i would try again if u ask…if anyone wants to add something with this please don’t hesitate
so u r trying to say to have wedding and walima on one day?
well i heard that in islam its only right to have a walima after the husband and wife and become husband and wife. nt really meaning that they sleep 2gether, they cn jst share the bed.
why not have a simple nikkah at the masjid or at home with some appatizers....then have one major event of Walima whose cost can be shared between girl and guy both's sides or guy pay for it.
^ Honestly that doesn't sound like a bad idea. If you are struggling financially or if there is another reason behind it then go ahead and have the 2 day event. It sounds like the simple and Islamic way to do it to me anyway. If I was given a choice of getting married all over again, for sure I would have saved the hundred's of thousands of dollars my family and my husband's family spent.
It all comes down to personal choice :)
so u r trying to say to have wedding and walima on one day?
well i heard that in islam its only right to have a walima after the husband and wife and become husband and wife. nt really meaning that they sleep 2gether, they cn jst share the bed.
I dunno wat exactly do u mean but after nikkah I think those formalities that u are defining are over and I don't see anyproblems with valima the next day along with our cultural tradition of ruksati
secondly as far as Jinab-e-Aali mentioned I am not a religious expert but there is no mention of rukhsati anywhere that i have come across. Islam only mentions about nikkah after that its upto bride and groom where they want to spent the night... thats how i understood it... but i don't have the exact knowledge so if anyone wants to add please welcome
It's a good idea. However, another suggestion is to have the nikkah and ruksati should be on the same day. Since the valima tends to be eventless, perhaps some of the dancing, singing and entertainment from mehndis could be merged with that, an act of celebration for the wedding that has just happened. And some of the rasams can happen before the nikkah.