Is it super awkward discussing marriage with our fathers? Do girls do that? Or is this something we just discuss with our mothers? But why not our dads? Especially when most of the time their the ones making the decisions? Have more authority in most cases. And honestly I personally feel my father cares a lot more about me than my mother at times.=P
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my bhateejii did discuss with her dad [my bro] and it was a OK. :) why not if you are a bit like friends.
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^ but why do you have to be like friends. Should not you be able to talk about it regardless he's your father, at the end of the day and your not talking about anything wrong. The idea of discussing such issues with their dad makes so many people cringe. Its weird.
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I'm able to talk with my father about it and I wouldn't consider ourselves 'friends'. It just depends on your relationship.
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Totally depends on your relationship with your father.
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At my age (late 20s) I could.
As a college/HS age, no way, because at that age, the firs tthing that comes to mind when you say marriage is "sex." (of course we KNOW there's a million more things to marriage but.....as young and immature person this is the first thing many would think of) So thats' why it's awkward.
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^ but why do you have to be like friends. Should not you be able to talk about it regardless he's your father, at the end of the day and your not talking about anything wrong. The idea of discussing such issues with their dad makes so many people cringe. Its weird.
may be i used a wrong word...by friend i did NOT mean buddy. what i emant was that there should be more openness and less inhibitions in talking about the daughter's future.
what we notice in our culture that there is a huge gap between fathers and daughters. daughters find it difficult to talk to their parents about their shaadi/byaah due to supposed 'sharm o Hayaa'. i think daughters talking to their fathers is neither be_Hayaaii nor be_sharmii.
There is nothing awkward about discussing marriage with your dad at any age. Discussion does not mean a desire. It could be fear of separation that you may want to discuss with him, or the kind of family you may or may not want to marry into, or your education plans and intention of not getting married soon. I see nothing wrong with that
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I have a very close relationship with my father and our family is quite open with one another.
When I first opened up about my husband and liking him - I told both my parents at the same time and my dad was the one more eager to meet him.
My dad has always treated me like his son more than daughter and I have always respected him for that. I don't think there is anything wrong with talking to your father. Some girls just have a closer relationship with their moms because of course there are some health related topics that your dad and you cannot discuss, but when it comes to marriage or other things I don't see a problem with it.
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My dad is definitely embarrassed while I’m not so so he communicates via my mom regarding marriage proposals. The only time he asked me on the face was for a final no for his brother’s son because they’d been asking for a couple of years. :icono:
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Why should it be awkward? He's your dad, he knows you better than you probably know yourself. I don't discuss marriage talks with my dad, rather my dad discusses it with me. I guess like others say it depends on your relationship.
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Is it super awkward discussing marriage with our fathers? Do girls do that? Or is this something we just discuss with our mothers?** But why not our dads? Especially when most of the time their the ones making the decisions? Have more authority in most cases.** And honestly I personally feel my father cares a lot more about me than my mother at times.=P
I always thought when it came to their kids' marriages mothers had more authority and control than fathers.. To me it seems they take a much more active role..
I'm closer to my dad so I feel more comfortable talking to him about a lot of things than my mum..
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lol my dad just says it how it is. for instance well be talking about something completely unrelated like i dunno, that restaurant was nice blah blah blah and he'll randomly come out with i want you to find someone nice and decent to marry. Then im like ok dad...
Sometimes he will say it in a jokey way but i know he really means it. I guess its just awkward and emosh perhaps for dad that there daughters will go away soon..