Most of my friends are in serious relationships or are engaged and the following subject came up in our daily e-mail banter.
Do you tell your future wife or husband about all your previous escapades with the other sex? Details and such…
Re: I wish you were like my ex.....
why would u talk about ur x for?
NO, they all must confess to me via PM's.
Re: I wish you were like my ex.....
I wouldn't. Never. Over my dead body. But the case in point was asked by friend's fiance. She asked him, he changed the subject. She got pissed off, he sent us an e-mail since we are all over the world now.
The discussion rages in our inboxes...
Re: I wish you were like my ex.....
People don't come with Full Service History, it is more of a "as is" basis thing.
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Did someone actually say that to their fiance? "I wish u were like my ex"? or are u asking about what do we think abt talking abt our exes (if we have any)?
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ok she either wants to know if she is better then the x, or how deep they both where (im guessing it's an arranged marriage)
he needs to make it out they both where a match made in hell......wifey2b will feel much better
an if she asks no it wasnt lov
Re: I wish you were like my ex.....
Actually that was something I said to the girl I was dating. But that is a completely different story and a sad realization on my part regarding which type of girls I am attracted too.
The question is would you tell your fiance about your previous relationships when asked.
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if ur not gonna say anything....wifey2b will be suspicious
It's better to tell him yourself then having him hear it from someone else.. IF he asks he deserves an honest answer.
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If you say something, she’d be upset, if you don’t, she’d be suspicious 
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See Jaanwar that is what us guys are saying. But the women say that he is going to marry her so he might as well be honest. Its a no win situation. If it is more girls than she expects he is screwed. If it is a no its bad news for him. If he lies he is screwed.
And Gina I agree with you completely. Its very important to be supportive on such issues.
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I knew a couple where the girl asked the guy and he denied it. A few months into their marriage his sister teased him about an exgirlfriend she had bumped into-in front of the wife! The wife got very upset because he had told her there was no one...and then it turned out there were numerous girls. After a few years of a troubled marriage, they ended up getting a divorce because the girl always felt unloved and that the ex girlfriends got all his loving!
Moral of the story is: Admit to some past but dont go into details. And if you have had a milllion girlfriends, dont admit to it..you sound like a casanova. And then treat your woman like a queen for the next week to avoid any hangups developing!
Suspicious bf's/gf's eeeek! I would be honest if my fiance asked.. I much rathar tell him than having him hear it from mutual friends..
CM, u don't need to be afraid.. I've done all my research on u.
See Jaanwar that is what us guys are saying. But the women say that he is going to marry her so he might as well be honest. Its a no win situation. If it is more girls than she expects he is screwed. If it is a no its bad news for him. If he lies he is screwed.
And Gina I agree with you completely. Its very important to be supportive on such issues.
if there is a chance the other person will find out, then tell the truth......
if not then I dont see no point in digging up the pass. ur friend has made the choice to marry this girl, is tht not what matters?
I knew a couple where the girl asked the guy and he denied it. A few months into their marriage his sister teased him about an exgirlfriend she had bumped into-in front of the wife! The wife got very upset because he had told her there was no one...and then it turned out there were numerous girls. After a few years of a troubled marriage, they ended up getting a divorce because the girl always felt unloved and that the ex girlfriends got all his loving!
Moral of the story is: Admit to some past but dont go into details. And if you have had a milllion girlfriends, dont admit to it..you sound like a casanova. And then treat your woman like a queen for the next week to avoid any hangups developing!
agree
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Good to know you consider me important enough to research my past. I appreciate the interest :D
See that is an issue of expectations. If the girl thinks he is a real casanova in the past but he has been loyal to his ex-girls then she should accept that. The problem with my friend is that he dated a friend of ours. We all still hang out together.
This is gonna get complicated....
Thank yew CM, ofcourse I take great interest in u.. along with all other single men!
Ok back to the topic..
Re: I wish you were like my ex…
Best to tell, no matter how many. Spare the gory details etc(if they ever made out and weird stuff) but tell her truthfully about his previous relationships. Previous relationships also shape a person and if he is a better person now, it will be evident and the girl will be at ease.
Trust me, sometimes the most stupidest and petty things come out when you are with someone, and it hurts more when it comes from an unlikely source:hinna: Sometimes they just say things to cause trouble. Jealousy is a wonderful phenomena:hehe: So watch out for the one’s who will tell you things you didn’t know about your partner.
If she is a mutual friend, the ex, definitely better to tell the fiancee about her atleast. Could make things awkward in the future or she may end up finding out herself if they interact.