tweek
February 23, 2017, 8:03am
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Re: I want to drop out of medicine
So far it seems your priorities in life are marriage and a family and more importantly they are your immediate and primary priorities.
Your mum’s priorities are you becoming a doctor and I am assuming she would want you to be married and have a family. But you becoming a doctor is probably more of a priority than the latter.
Your families priorities and the timelines are not matching up and this is causing a major clash in expectations which is heart breaking. I can totally understand.
The people I know who are in medicine really love their field and have made it #1 ](http://gupshup.org/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1 ) in their life. It is not only about the study but the lifestyle you will have as a doctor. It is lots of work after your studies are complete with long shifts and on call work. You really have to be committed to it long term. You shouldn’t go into something you are not passionate about. You only get one life and I strongly believe you should spend it doing something you love and which will help bring meaning to your days.
I think you need to have an honest sit down with your parents and tell them about your situation and concerns and genuinely listen to theirs.
I also want to tell you that marriage and having a family is really important and probably one of the best ways to fulfill your duties as a muslimah. I regard it highly as well but also understand marriage isn’t everything. I’ve seen girls centre their whole lives around their husband and kids without evolving their personalities and having other interests and that results in them seeking all their happiness from their husbands which is way too much pressure for the poor guy. I know you are a bright girl and won’t be like that but it’s just a reminder. You will get married when you are destined to be so. Allah knows when and where. Who knows you might find someone during your studies. Allah often gives us what we expect. So hope for the best. You’re only 21, enjoy life and things will come together. They always have, haven’t they? I promise you they will again. Good luck
I want to be a doctor I just don’t know if I want to spend 6 years doing it. Everyone around me is so young and I feel inadequate like I don’t belong with them. I’m finding it hard to make friends with people in my course.
I think you should at least put some thought and planning in your life rather than leaving everything up to Allah. I have an Aunty who is unmarried and I don’t want to be like that. I would love some companionship and a family of my own in my life. I don’t know if I should prioritize that over this.