I want to drop out of medicine

[Bobby1]

Re: I want to drop out of medicine

@tweek

Hear me out. I moved to another country from Pakistan about ~ 8 years ago. We did not have our citizenship and when I turned 18 I was ineligible to apply for any undergraduate medicine programs though my marks were good. So my parents told me to study a science degree at a local college which was cheap. In the meanwhile we did get our citizenship but after I finished my degree I couldn’t get into graduate medicine. I was feeling very down so my mother asked me to apply for undergraduate programs and I got into perhaps one of the best medical schools in the country as an undergrad. Just one problem: the course is 6 YEARS LONG.

I’m 21 now and will be 27 by the time I’m a doctor. I already feel old compared to my peers because they are all 18-year-olds fresh out of high school while I have a degree under my belt. I find it hard to relate to them. But I’m mostly worried about my marriage prospects. I don’t want to grow old alone, I want to get married and have children. From what I’ve seen in my community most girls are married by 25. I’ve never heard of anyone getting married over this age and rishta offers dry up after 26. My parents don’t seem to care about this at all but I feel anxious thinking about the future. I don’t feel happy at all and I have no one to talk to either.

I have tried bringing this up with my mother but she accuses me of having a secret boyfriend or being a stupid modern girl who shouldn’t worry about such issues because your parents are the only ones who should be thinking about marrying you. She always wanted me to be a doctor and she is far happier about my admission than I am. TBH I would have been happy studying about anything like accounting and engineering but my parents really pushed me into medicine. I can’t say I don’t like the profession. I love science, I especially love medical science’s and I can see myself doing very well as a doctor. But I don’t feel like it aligns with my family goals. Any advice? How do I bring this up with my mother? Sorry for the long post.

I know people who completed their medicine degree in their 50s, If you want to be a doctor pursue it regardless of age if you don’t want to be one then don’t do it Studying doesn’t mean you have to quit living Marriages aren’t the end goals in life, girls should be financially and emotionally independent. There is a high rate of divorce and abuse what if marriage doesn’t work out and you are not financially independent. When you are financially successful the world falls to its knees for you. I would say you have an amazing opportunity many would kill for.

My neighbor and my best friend was studying to be a psychiatrist and finally completed his training in his 50s he had the most amazing family. You can continue studies after marriage also.