I want to drop out of medicine

[Paheli00]

Re: I want to drop out of medicine

@tweek

I have tried bringing this up with my mother but she accuses me of having a secret boyfriend or being a stupid modern girl who shouldn’t worry about such issues because your parents are the only ones who should be thinking about marrying you. She always wanted me to be a doctor and she is far happier about my admission than I am. TBH I would have been happy studying about anything like accounting and engineering but my parents really pushed me into medicine. I can’t say I don’t like the profession. I love science, I especially love medical science’s and I can see myself doing very well as a doctor. But I don’t feel like it aligns with my family goals. Any advice? How do I bring this up with my mother? Sorry for the long post.

Drop out of medical school. That’s the advice 2 other doctors gave you in this thread. I’m married to a doctor and have quite a few doctor friends (men and women), and it’s pretty obvious that you’re not up for the commitment it takes to be a doctor. If you don’t actually have a passion for practicing medicine and caring for patients, and you already know that it doesn’t align with your family goals, then you will be miserable. All the time, energy, and money you will spent doing this is worthless because it’s not going to bring any positivity into your life.

You don’t need your mommy’s permission to drop out. Your mother has lived her own life and made choices she felt was best for herself and her children. You are an adult. YOU need to make decisions that align with your future goals and the type of life you want for your own spouse/kids. It doesn’t sound like you have a emotional attachment to a particular profession so it’s not about what you “want” to be. Do some research and choose something that you can practice long term while still pursuing your ideal family life.