I was talking to a friend of mine (white guy) about dating and couples who move in together. He said that he would want to date someone and live with them before marrying because he wants to see how she would react in not-so-ideal situations, i.e. money troubles, fights etc. Basically, the person’s reaction when things get difficult.
Given that desis tend to go for a more formal rishta process, should men and women try to piss each other off during the meetings to see how the other reacts? Do you think knowing how your spouse handles difficult situations is worth knowing? For people who have gone through uber formal rishta processes, is this something you looked for?
I ask this because I would imagine that initially, both people are on their best behaviour so it would be hard to gauge.
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So how would you gauge how a person reacts? Or is this something you deal with after the marriage?
they say that if you want to know a person, travel with him or have a meal with him. But what we call 'dating' would also help to mget top know the person
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I'm for equal opportunies to all. I treat all relationships like this. Treat them mean from the onset and then see if they deserve the good. It's like a filter. I dont have the time or monies to allow fools.
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why stop at pissing game only . Hold a duel to see if they can defend them when the situation demands .
Infect them with viruses and germs to see how they behave when they are sick. And many more.
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what a radical idea, seriously good thinking ghost!
I was talking to a friend of mine (white guy) about dating and couples who move in together. He said that he would want to date someone and live with them before marrying because he wants to see how she would react in not-so-ideal situations, i.e. money troubles, fights etc. Basically, the person's reaction when things get difficult.
Given that desis tend to go for a more formal rishta process, should men and women try to piss each other off during the meetings to see how the other reacts? Do you think knowing how your spouse handles difficult situations is worth knowing? For people who have gone through uber formal rishta processes, is this something you looked for?
I ask this because I would imagine that initially, both people are on their best behaviour so it would be hard to gauge.
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theyr not a guinea pig .. i fu wana know u base it on stuff u hear aobut hem .. how theyv interacted with people .. thats wenough .. no need to test them in vivo
Re: I wanna see how she reacts when bleep goes down
I was talking to a friend of mine (white guy) about dating and couples who move in together. He said that he would want to date someone and live with them before marrying because he wants to see how she would react in not-so-ideal situations, i.e. money troubles, fights etc. Basically, the person's reaction when things get difficult.
Given that desis tend to go for a more formal rishta process, should men and women try to piss each other off during the meetings to see how the other reacts? Do you think knowing how your spouse handles difficult situations is worth knowing? For people who have gone through uber formal rishta processes, is this something you looked for?
I ask this because I would imagine that initially, both people are on their best behaviour so it would be hard to gauge.
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If you are pissing your potential spouse to see how she/he would react in real life, you are not worth it for him/her to consider you his/her spouse.
I once met a guy who thought the same way.
He tried to pick fights with me...upset me on purpose just to see how I reacted. And then one day, he also had the nerve to tell me he was doing that. I had passed his tests apparently so he was giving me the good news. I didn't say another word to him because I could feel myself getting angry...I just left. Such people are not worth another glance.
Its a really mean thing to do. It shows a lack of consideration for someone's emotions and time.
Marriage is a gamble...whether you are in love or its arranged. You will never know everything about someone unless you're married and living together. It just doesn't happen because you have so many experiences yet to go through together. How will you EVER know how someone will react unless you go through them together? How long and how many times will you do trial-runs with different girls?
If you're not ready to adapt to someone else being a part of your life...then you're not ready for marriage.
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There's an ancient thread on here where a Guppan had shared that rishta prospects had come to her home and at first things were going well. Then all of a sudden the guy's parents started dissing the girl. She tolerated that, but when the dissed her parents in front of her, she couldn't stay quiet. The guy's mom glumly told her that they were testing her tolerance level and that she had been doing so well. There actually are idiots like this, it seems.
good point. You should never aggro dungeon bosses without backup.
