I see this as a lack of self respect

[Niksik]

Re: I see this as a lack of self respect

@ajuba

Oh dear I’m not getting much sympathy am I? ok, 1) I didn’t say that she isn’t allowed to see her son. I said she should have a limit of one to two months, especially as wshe comes every 18 months. Also. in between that time her son goes and visits her. 2) It is his house but its also mine. I helped paid for it, probably contributinh more tham him. 3) She doesn’t do tanay or stir up trouble but in pthe past she has done certain major things which demonstrated that she has no regard for me. Without going into the details she used me to to settle her other son abroad. So, my feeling towards her are that as she has no regard for me and as she put me through so much stress and so much strain on our marriage, why should I be nice to her? I just don’t have that capacity after her behaviour. 4) as to what goes round comes round etc I will never ever impose on my children in that way when I get older. I would rather be in an old peoples home staring at the walls. 5) I’m a nice person. really. I jusr don’t like to be taken advantage of.

Hmmm, so you feel like she doesn’t give you the respect you deserve. Completely understandable. Perhaps when she does come to visit, you could get busy with other things and just be the best you can. Remember you will get rewarded extra for things that are harder for you to do. It will also make your husband happy.

I’m sure you are a nice person but sometimes you just have to let go.