no, this approach will make you insaan. nothing is impossible!
your problem is you are scared to take any step. you over think and over stress yourself to a limit that not only your started considering yourself a philosopher, but also turning into a total loser.
insaan or insane? lol!
Thanks a lot. Actually it's making a lot of sense.
the family and financial issues you're facing sound pretty common but what caught my eye is that your spiritual connection with God isn't there anymore. i found that truly shocking, especially considering your background. this can be on of the reasons you don't have peace of mind. i can assure you'll be a much happier person once your faith is restored. and i also believe that you need some good friends in your life. you need an actual person you can share your problems and other personal matters with.
"especially considering your background". could you please elaborate on that a little?
and thanks for your prayers.
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you sound like you are going through an existentialist crisis. Do what PCG said. Regroup. Take time out for you.
Your body and mind are very good at telling you when something isnt working out for them. You should listen before you do yourself some real psychological damage. (by way of depression etc).
And another thing. Life is not linear, it is a personal journey and you dont have to be at any stage. There are granted norms, but you should focus on how/what you WANT to be doing and evaluate from there.
All the best.
Also as a parting shot, I dont think you should worry about losing the faith thing. It is like a waves and falls in crests and peaks. Take care of the pragmatic things that you have control over. This will give you peace of mind that then allows you to critally examine the state of your religious devotion.
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I suggest you seek counselling. Looks like you need it.
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Pray!...makes you feel good..i don't say its going to be a miraculous but will surely help...
you sound like you are going through an existentialist crisis. Do what PCG said. Regroup. Take time out for you.
Your body and mind are very good at telling you when something isnt working out for them. You should listen before you do yourself some real psychological damage. (by way of depression etc).
And another thing. Life is not linear, it is a personal journey and you dont have to be at any stage. There are granted norms, but you should focus on how/what you WANT to be doing and evaluate from there.
All the best.
Also as a parting shot, I dont think you should worry about losing the faith thing. It is like a waves and falls in crests and peaks. Take care of the pragmatic things that you have control over. This will give you peace of mind that then allows you to critally examine the state of your religious devotion.
In my current situation, it seems like following the norms is a blessing. there is less psychological pain that way.
I'm glad you mentioned existentialist crisis. I had a faint idea what it was but looked it up again. sounds exactly like what I am going through. any suggestions how to deal with it? And what would you recommend re. listening to what the mind and body are telling us. meditation? prayer? intuition/gut feelings?
I pretty much understand what you are saying about faith and the waves. That is the reason I didn't write much on it.
Thanks
Shaah
Make up with your brother..Talk to him and explain your side of any issues that are between you two and the situation you are in etc; apologise if you've said things in arguments that you shouldn't have said; own up if you haven't met your family's expectations at some point due to carelessness/fun; don't think of the outcome or whether he'll be receptive or not; you have to do your bit; regardless of how you two have been since your childhood.
Get back into work and start paying off your debts; rat race or whatever, it has to be done; there isn't a choice! no one always enjoys work, ups & downs are there in each aspect of ones life; things would start working out.
Don't lose your faith, read your namaz, it helps a lot.
Share your mind with a good friend.
You have to face these issues, resolve them and move on.
btw, where are you based currently?