re: I said no to marriage with my cousin - and getting emotional blackmail…
Are you trying to help her out or destroy her life by giving her the advice of moving out of her house?. Come on, she does not want to start a war with her parents and end up cutting all contact with them. Pink Orchids, talk to your cousin directly before going to Pakistan and tell him that once you come to Pakistan, you want to meet him and find out if you have anything in common and If both of you find there is nothing in common, then you would jointly contact your/his parents and let them know that this marriage cannot work out. The guy would have enough respect to back out if he finds out that there is nothing in common.