I ordered my bridal... *LONG Story*

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Re: I ordered my bridal… LONG Story

@Paheli00

Hahaha…what would your parents do? Tie you up, kidnap you, and lock you in your room?

LOL…I didn’t want to bore anyone else about my ramblings but sure…but since you asked too, I’ll post it here. But to address your specific comment…my parents never “let” me live in the same city as my fiance. Actually…they never “let” me move out b/c I never asked for permission. They live in medium sized town that I always disliked. During my senior year in college…I mentioned that I wanted to move out after graduation. Parents didn’t take me seriously. But I saved all my $$ from my part time job…and looked for a job in the same state but outside our “town”. I found one. 2-3 months before graduation, I told my parents I was driving to my current city (4 hours drive) to find an apartment. Once again…parents didn’t take me seriously. Well…I went back from my “weekend trip” with a apartment lease signed by me. Mom freaked out…dad said I’ll be back after a few months.

I didn’t give into my mom’s emotional blackmail. At 22, a week after graduation, I packed all my stuff and moved to my new city. Despite being upset…my parents never made me feel any less “loved”. They were worried/emotional the 1st few months…but when they realized I was “making it on my own”…they relaxed. Our relationship has actually improved TONS in the last few years.

Today, I’m an adult who has been living on my own for quite a while. I’m not financially dependant on anyone. At this point in my life…I don’t “ask” my parents permission for anything. I ask them for advice sometimes…but they’re very aware of the fact that I’m simply asking for advice…not permission. It’s a very non-desi way of thinking/living life.

And I will also add that I’ve learned in the last few years what true unconditional love is. It’s the love my parents have for me. They’re actually quite traditional. But I guess you can say their love for their daughter is stronger than their desire for “cultural tradition”. There are times when they’re upset/angry/dissapointed at my choices. But to their credit, they have never once made me feel any less welcome in their home…or any less loved. When I hear other parents verbally/emotionallky/physically abusing their children b/c the children don’t follow them like robots…or when I hear about parents disowning their kids or honor killings…I honestly can not relate to it at all. I hope someday I can show my children even HALF the love my parents have shown me.

with a few minor changes, we could be life-twins!