I am getting to know a great guy for marriage purposes. He ticks all the boxes and we have ALOT in common.
He told me he’s shy and takes him a while to come out if his shell, which is fine because I am shy myself and I haven’t been in a relationship. So I have nothing to compare him with.
The thing is, we’ve met 4 times, been speaking non-stop for 3 months every single day. When we first started talking, he would compliment me etc (this was all via text) but every time we meet up, he gets more and more reserved and shy.
He still makes a effort to talk to me but obviously we have less to talk about as we’ve been speaking everyday constantly for 3 months.
He works away hence why we haven’t met often.
I’m started to get frustrated. Do shy guys get more shyer if they like a girl more?
He’s always initiating future plans so I don’t think he’s gone off me…he always making plans in regards to what I enjoy and he’s the perfect gentleman.
I just want him to open up more. I thought, the more he got to know me, the more comfortable he would be. But that’s happened to me but the other way around for him!
I don’t want to ask him as he seems to haves problems with expressing how he feels about me. I don’t want to scare him off. I really like him but I’m having doubts.
Not everyone opens up real easily, let alone in a three month period no matter how often you've talked. If you're having doubts about the entire thing on a minor thing like this then maybe more deeper issues. Sorry if I said anything offensive, just my take on it.
Well, now he seems all fine and O.K to me but i am not too sure about you :) lol jokes aside, you need to chill.
Some people express better in writting or vocally (that is on phone, etc) but may not be expressive in person (physically) so you need to take that in account. He already has told you about him being a shy person so its only logical to give him benefit of doubt. If it really bothers you, you can try to talk to him in an indirect way like...."hey why were u so shy when u met me...come'on we have been talking for months now, you can ease up now..." something of that sort. I am still not sure how well this would go but you can give it a try.
