I need to share something

[wishkamar]

OK, so first of all, I’m not sure if this is the right place for this topic…So mods, you can move it to where ever you think it actually belongs…I didn’t want to open it in All Views because so many times, topics there are not taken seriously ( no offense to anyone)…

Arrite, so here is what I gotta say!

A son of our very close family friends back in Pakistan passed away about 2 1/2 years ago in a bike accident…It was very tragic for many reasons…He was young (not more than 27), had just got nikahed (couldn’t think of any better word), the youngest of 6 siblings and a very charming person. Weird thing that happened was that in January 2007, he had a bike accident and got his one arm and one leg fractured..Ammi called and asked him YEH KAISE HUA to which he replied JEE BAS S BAJI HONE WALI BAAT THEE LEKIN AB MAIN KAFI BEHTER HUN…And then in May 2007, I called my nanno on a weekend night and she told me that Ali Bhai is no more. Trust me, I cannot describe my disbelief in words..He had another accident 3 days prior and couldn’t survive head injuries he incurred; doctors put him on ventilator for 2 days but then lost all hope, declared him brain dead and took him off the ventilator. Our hearts still weep when we remember him…(I had to provide you all with a bit of background of what’s bothering me)

So, about 5-6 weeks ago, I saw Ali Bhai in my dream..I saw his father and he are visiting us…I saw that his dad, whose health is affected immensely because of the loss of his youngest son, looks all healthy and lively and so does Ali Bhai…I ask Ali bhai about his health after his accident and he says that he’s doing very well, shows me his thumb nail and tells me that only this was injured in the accident…And then I wake up…The dream felt so real that it frightened me a little. I, then, prayed for his soul until drifted back to sleep…

A couple of days ago, I had a dream of his again. This time, I saw that he’s standing behind my home’s front door and when I open the door, unaware of his presence right behind the door, it bangs on his head REAL hard making him bleeding profusely…And, then I wake up…

I’m not looking for any meaning of the dream but It’s just bothering me a lot that why I’m seeing him NOW after almost 3 years of his death and why my dreams are always related to his accident…

Any thoughts?

P.S. I know it’s a long entry; actually the longest I’ve ever written but I just had to share it with someone…

[gulab_jamun]

I think it just happens. When one of my bros passed away, my mom said she often saw him in her dreams. one time she told me that when she was pregnant with another one of my brothers, she saw a dream in which they were was a coffin, and she opened it thinking it was my bro that passed away, but it was actually a new baby boy! She also told me other dreams, which i don't really care to mention, because they're sort of freakier.

I wouldn't think too much about it.

[redvelvet]

Re: I need to share something

Your story is sad and I hope that Ali's family finds sabr during this trying time and is able to move forward. Dreams are a reflection of what goes on in our daily lives....this can be about events/issues/fears/feelings/thoughts we experience during the day. Dreams also represent the subconscious.

It's human nature that we don't think about people as often when they're alive....but when they're gone......it brings them to our attention like never before. I think this is what is happening to you. You probably never thought about him too much......but the fact that he's gone.......and that too at such a young age.......has come as a shock to you. So, you're thinking about it often.......and it's showing up in your dreams.

There have been times when I've learned about the sudden death of someone whom I don't know well.....who is not related to me........and yet it affects you so strongly. The whole unpredictable suddeness of the situation blows your mind away. And it makes you reflect over your own immortality and it encourages you to put things in perspective in your life and spend time/cherish your loved ones.

Another reason can also be that if you are around the same age as Ali.....the tragedy will be even more shocking to you. 27 is a young age........there is so much in life yet to be experienced. And if you're around that age.....and even if you're not.......it's a thought that is disturbing. Also, Ali was going to get married.....and his plans were cut short completely. It feels almost like a loose thread doesn't it? Kind of like unfinished business.....where everyone is preparing for a celebration.....which will never take place.

But really, Wishkamar, I think that its the fact that** 1) you knew the guy **2) he died young 3) the suddeness of his death ** 4)** the realization of your own immortality.......all these things are causing you think about him and death in general.....and it's showing up in your dreams. As the days go by, and you start thinking of him less and less, inshaAllah the dreams will occur less frequently and eventually stop coming. Just continue praying for Ali and his family.

[Bonbonniere]

Re: I need to share something

Some dreams have meanings, some dont. Some are manifestations of something going on in our subconscious and some are actual signals from Allah swt.

Im no expert but I would say that maybe you're at a crossroads in your life? Maybe you're at an age when things are happening or about to happen for you? Maybe he was someone you cared for immensely and your dreams could be that bond. Lots of things could have triggered your dream and then there might not be anything at all.

When I get crazy dreams that are so vivid, I try to look for a lesson or a message in them. His death was so sudden, this could have been a way to put your mind at ease, that everything is alright.

[Monk]

Re: I need to share something

I know this not going to help, but I will still tell.
I saw ppl then they died.
I saw dead ppl and some one else passed away.
I saw dead ppl nothing happened.

[Straight_up]

Re: I need to share something

My grandparents passed away not too long ago and I saw them both. It comforted me.

[Jaanwar]

Re: I need to share something

You see people in your dreams when you think about them - or when you have their memories in the back of your head. It happens, nothing much to it.

[adeeba]

Re: I need to share something

The only thing you can do is pray for his soul and pay in his name...:(

[somehowcollide]

Re: I need to share something

Dreams are often a glimpse into our subconscious. They are not necessarily a message from beyond, but a message from within.

What could these dreams be telling you? As Bonbonierre mentioned earlier, look for how this dream relates to your life. Above all, don't be afraid, you are protected always by Allah.

[Gr8Heera]

Wishkamar aap ziada na socha karain unkay baray main. Na hi unki accident kay baray main. Aap ko sock laga hai bohat unkay accident ka is liaay aisa ho raha hai.

Aap na sirf unko yaad karteen hain balkay accident kay baray main bhi sochti hain kay kaisay huwa hoga ya kia huwa. Yay sub sochna chor dan.

Pehla khuwaab Allah ki taraf say ya aap ki soch kay mutabiq wo shayad Achcha rutba paa gaay hain. Is liaay wo aap ko batanay kay liaay hai ya aap aisa samjhti hain.

Accident say marnay walay shaheed hotay hain. Naik loag hi aksar jaldi martay hain. Yaqeen wo aik achchay insaan hon gay. Allah say qawi ummeed hai kay wo Qabr main khush hon gay. Insha Allah.

Aap un kay liaay ziada say zida dua kia karain. Aur unkay accident kay baray main kay kia huwa? Kioon huwa aur kaisay huwa? ya is qism kay sawalat waghaira sochna chor dain.

Jis din aap unko yaad karain gi khuwaab main daikhain gi. Jub bhi unki yaad aay dua karain unkay liaay aur yaay zahan nasheen kar lain kay wo Achchi halat main hon gay aur unko accident main koi takleef naheen ponhchi.

Aap apnay zahan ko yay bawar karain kay Aik na aik din sub nain marna hai unka time itna hi tha.

Aap unsay pyar bohat karti hain is liaay bhi aisa hota hai.