Yeah, that’s just awful. I guess you could reach a compromise by saying that you will teach them about Pakistan and its culture… its more saddening that your children don’t know Urdu. Perhaps they think if they send them back they’ll be more connected.
My partner also hinted at these things. I.E sending our children to Pakistan for university and I flat out refused. None of my children will be going to a university in Pakistan where they would be very different from others. He doesn’t want to live in Pakistan. Why should we send our children there? It’s absurd.
You should voice your concerns with your husband. You could visit with him. Make a whole family trip! I went there and it was fun. I think it would be more fun as a proper tourist though… like going to all the pretty farm areas etc