Re: I need help, advice.
We looked at family, my parents looked at his family. They looked at ours. I did not run away with him, it was a match made and AH, we have had a great time. No one can predict how one will be 20 years from now.
My in laws are medical doctors. Their other daughter in laws are their nieces, their son in laws are their nephews.
I have put my foot down on many occasions over the years, and made many things clear.
My older son is 18, the other is 16, and they are well aware of what is going on. They love their grandparents, and I feel they are being made to choose.
My in laws went crazy. Told my son how their mother (I) was keeping them away from everyone, my son kept quiet , and they then called me cursing me every name under the sun, and how i was to blame, how my husband can get another wife in Pakistan.
Thats a toughie. Ultimately, your sons will have to choose. And everyone will have to be accountable for their own behavior. verbal abuse and terrorizing and other tactics might work…depends on how bad things get. I have no advice for you now :-\ sorry