I need help, advice.

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Re: I need help, advice.

@kakee

Yeah, that’s just awful. I guess you could reach a compromise by saying that you will teach them about Pakistan and its culture… its more saddening that your children don’t know Urdu. Perhaps they think if they send them back they’ll be more connected.

My partner also hinted at these things. I.E sending our children to Pakistan for university and I flat out refused. None of my children will be going to a university in Pakistan where they would be very different from others. He doesn’t want to live in Pakistan. Why should we send our children there? It’s absurd.

You should voice your concerns with your husband. You could visit with him. Make a whole family trip! I went there and it was fun. I think it would be more fun as a proper tourist though… like going to all the pretty farm areas etc

My husband and his siblings do not speak a word of Urdu, Panjabi, etc. They grew up in a completely non Desi household.

When i married my husband, I married him for him and that his family was really nice. My parents scouted out his family, and they in turn ours. We knew they have family in Pakistan, but his entire immediate family was/is in the USA. Why on earth would we think of moving to Pakistan, when my husband and his siblings all grew up and reside in the US?

My children know about Pakistan, I am not defending any decisions here. They grew up with chachas, phophos, and frankly that is all that matters, not third cousin, and this sister in laws parents, this so and so’s cousins.

My inlaws are in the medical / healthcare professions. they are pioneers in some advances in medicine, you would not know it by living with them.

Their views have become so backward and downright ridiculous, it is quite mind boggling.