I am not sure if this post belongs under this section but I have been following this forum for a while and you guys seem like a good group of people, so I thought maybe I can share my frustration with you guys.
We have a hired a new (gora) guy at work and he is just so over eager to learn everything about my job. I have trained him the way I was trained with the basic knowledge of my work.
The advance knowledge comes with work experience.I feel like he is trying to outdo me by asking all the questions he can about my job so that he can use that information to learn more and show off in front of the upper management.
I never did that when I was being trained. I was always caution and never tried stepping on anyones toes. I cant really ignore his questions or give him the wrong info.
He goes behind my back and looks at our shared inbox e-mails and learns things and shows them off in front of my boss.
When I am having a conversation about a project with my other co-workers he will come by and listen in so he can learn more and more!!!
I am getting so frustrated and I am not sure how to politically and diplomatically handle this.
Are u both doing the same role.? I experienced this with someone recently but the opposite where she wouldnt let me do anything and kept saying im a newbie in the end i put my foot down and just did what i wanted my way and learnt. It can b frustrating when u have someone over eager and comeptitive. I think all u can do is just dont let your tasks be effected as long as u can do wat u need to do and management can see ur working and helping the newbie dont worry.! His excitement will die down soon.! Just dont make a big deal or if he gets too annoying just say im busy right now but could u maybe do x y z etc
This is what I would suggest. Approach your manager and discuss the eagerness of your new co-worker, and tell your manager that you want to coach this new employee and can you be his designated mentor. That way not only you would have an official assignment so you wont feel like you are taking time away from your other work, but because you are the official mentor, every thing that he would show off to his superiors, would be credited towards you by your bosses as they would know that you are his source of all the learning. That will actually not only look good in your resume, but also in your annual Performance Evaluation.
Hi. Thank you for the response. Yes we both are in the same role. I was independently responsible for the role and then he was hired and now I am his point of contact for all the questions until I get trained for another role in the same department. I completely agree with you, I don’t mind teaching and being helpful but what annoys me is when he starts suggesting improvements on a Job I have been doing for over a year and he has done for only a month. His suggestions are baseless and he is only doing it so he can look good in front of the supervisor. And his over competitiveness and eagerness is driving me crazy. I keep praying to Allah to give me sabar and not let me say anything politically incorrect to him as that will make me look bad. But I am telling you he is driving me crazy!!
When he makes a suggestion just say write your suggestions down and say il look into them. End of. If he has to answer to u then u can take control and say il discuss with management dont get offended when he tries to suggest stuff alot of people get excited in a job role and hel
Come crashing back to reality soon lol inshallah youl be fine and off to another dept and hel be away from you.! Im sure management will also ask u for ur feedback when they review what his performance is like just hint to him that its better to get the task on hand done first then changes can be discussed in the near future
This is what I would suggest. Approach your manager and discuss the eagerness of your new co-worker, and tell your manager that you want to coach this new employee and can you be his designated mentor. That way not only you would have an official assignment so you wont feel like you are taking time away from your other work, but because you are the official mentor, every thing that he would show off to his superiors, would be credited towards you by your bosses as they would know that you are his source of all the learning. That will actually not only look good in your resume, but also in your annual Performance Evaluation.
That is a brilliant Idea TLK, I ll def look into arranging something of that nature. Since I am technically his main point of contact, I ll be sure to try to be extra helpful in front of my boss if he is around so my boss can see I am very helpful. I know I sound sneaky or chalak but man if you want to survive in the corporate world that is the way to go.
When he makes a suggestion just say write your suggestions down and say il look into them. End of. If he has to answer to u then u can take control and say il discuss with management dont get offended when he tries to suggest stuff alot of people get excited in a job role and hel
Come crashing back to reality soon lol inshallah youl be fine and off to another dept and hel be away from you.! Im sure management will also ask u for ur feedback when they review what his performance is like just hint to him that its better to get the task on hand done first then changes can be discussed in the near future
Thank you so much for your response. You guys indeed made me feel better. Shukar allah. I am going to try to stay in that mindset inshallah. At the end of the day, Allah (swt) is the one who provides us with izaat and rozi so iA I ll just pray and work hard. But ahh those annoying moments, I had to share it with someone lol.
You both need to grow - he needs to grow into you're role and you into another role.
If growth stops you become stagnent and eventually a pencil pusher.
I wouldn't be threatened by him, I would simultaneously look for other bigger projects.
You both need to grow - he needs to grow into you're role and you into another role.
If growth stops you become stagnent and eventually a pencil pusher.
I wouldn't be threatened by him, I would simultaneously look for other bigger projects.
Hello Muniya,
Thank you for the advice. Originally my boss was making me teach him everything and was putting me on the assistant work like scanning things. I have been working at the company longer and I have a degree. I don’t mind doing small stuff, I don’t think low if it because I know there are learning opportunities everywhere but I started to feel like while all my other co-workers were getting visibility among the upper management for their roles, I was stuck doing admin work like filing and I have been there longer then they have. On top this new guy was trying to outdo me so I scheduled a one-on-one meeting with my boss and told him nicely that I feel like my long-term goals are not progressing and that I need more exposure and visibility in my field. So he has agreed to start training me on a new role end of this month. Please pray for me.
Great job girl! you don't need our advice you took the right steps to get yourself moving in the right direction.
My expierence is that you can't change others, but you can be veyr vigilant about always improving yourself and maintaining your vitality for the company.
You showed that you're proactive and compentant. Awesome!
Great job girl! you don't need our advice you took the right steps to get yourself moving in the right direction.
My expierence is that you can't change others, but you can be veyr vigilant about always improving yourself and maintaining your vitality for the company.
You showed that you're proactive and compentant. Awesome!
If I was his supervisor or above his current title, then of course I would be happy to share my knowledge with him and help him learn, because that is how we learn. I have just gotten my foot in the company and we are both at the same level, unfortunately I don’t possess the self-bragging skills he does. I am okay with him showing off the knowledge he knows and going above and beyond to impress the boss but not at my expense. He needs to focus on his job and training instead of trying to get a handle on my job responsibilities so he can look like an all rounder. No one appreciates that. The corporate world is very cut-throat. You have to find a way to get your name out there and have to be very diplomatic and political.
I hired a new girl in my department and she is the same level as one of my other existing staff members. I assigned the existing guy the responsibility for training and mentoring her. If I thought he was holding back information from the new girl or not training her to have the same competencies as him, I would adversely rate his work performance because he'd have shown he's not a team player.
Yes, sometimes the new person does seem over eager and it might annoy you, but as part of a group you need to show that you support the objectives of the department and the organization as a whole.
^ agreed. it is your responsibility to help your colleagues perform to the best of their abilities because thats beneficial to your employer. These days its all about being a team player.
Also its a little harsh to say he's eager and he's doing it all to show you up. Chances are he's just ambitious and wants to do a good job and learn as much as he can. Every time I've moved into a new position I do the same, i try and ask questions and shadow my fellow employees so I can learn more and do my job to the best of my abilities. I'm not sure how exactly he brags but to some extent you have to market yourself to your superiors. You could be the best performing employee in the company but if you just sat there and did your job and didn't make people aware of your contributions you wouldn't get far. I'm not saying bragging is necessary but to some extent you do need to be vocal about how you're contributing to the company and why you're valuable to them.
Honestly, being eager, asking questions are all good qualities and hopefully these are things that you yourself do.
