I need advice. Please!

[sara2005]

Re: I need advice. Please!

Thank you so much Tea for your advice. Inshallah I will keep this in mind. I am just so tired of not having control of myself that it is getting me really depressed. I feel like there is no purpose to my life. My life is just slipping away working and coming home and catering to my family. I dont enjoy this time anymore, I want something new because I am afraid this is all I am going to do all my life. Sadly, I am craving companionship, I want to get married and start my life so I am more focused and balance due to the added responsiblity and am able to take care of my parents. Please pray for me and again thank you for your advice.

@tea1234

Sara, there is nothing wrong with you wanting to get married before your sisters. And there is certainly nothing wrong about thinking for yourself. My younger sister just got married and I am not. I had no issues with it. She found a person she wanted to get married and I spoke up for her. Helped her with her wedding preps and made sure everything goes as she wants. However, I can understand your sisters’ point of view too. They may feel that if the youngest gets married then their prospects of getting married will just end. Trust me I have had people come up to me and act as if I am a criminal or something since I am not married and my younger sis is.

You become wise as you go through life experiences and learn from them. However, what I can say to you is think before you act. If it’s about money make a budget. Take your expenses out from your pay and whatever amount is left, you can divide into 2. 1 half for yourself and 1 half for your parents.
Make sure you spend sometime with your parents everyday. As we grow older we become so engrossed in our lives that we forget that are parents crave for our attention. Start taking on more responsibility around the house. This way you will start to have more say in the decisions that are being made.

This may not be much. I may not even have helped you. However, all I’m gonna say is that you can’t achieve everything in one day. You can’t change yourself in one day. It’s a process. Take one step at a time and you will get there InshaAllah.