I need advice. Concerned about my fiance...

[Mezhgan]

Re: I need advice. Concerned about my fiance…

@multani86

I’ve seen enough movies, heard enough stories, and read enough literature — that usually when people run away — people come after them. Especially married husbands, and if such married husbands had even the slightest wiff or idea where his wife might be — he will be the first party to arrive at the scene…and he won’t be so accommodating to the “friendship” – regardless of how it’s told.

Exactly. This is what actually concerns me and is the only reason I am concerned about her staying with him. On the other hand, despite knowing what a bad idea it is and the potential for drama, I feel guilty about dissuading from allowing her to stay with him because despite her immaturity and other issues, I figure that if someone is willing to “run away” and cut off ties with their family, they must running from something worth running from, and she doesn’t seem to have much support besides him.

I don’t mind if he continues to talk to her or helps her in other ways. You definitely make a good point about suggesting he help in ways other than allowing her to live with him.