I am sooooo worn out, my kitchen, my laundry room is a mess. I know the things I need to do but I can’t seem to get to them. Just changing Jr. giving him a bath, doing our breakfast and I am wiped.
All I do is sit, have the computer next to me. … Haven’t even cooked in 2 days. I don’t have the energy to dress up Jr. and go to the corner grocery store. What do I do? I am sleepy, exhausted, fatigued all the time. We just moved to a new city, new job 3 months ago. Hubby is still going through the settling in at work phase with new clients, different work methodology and since it is his busy season he has also been working late.
The guilt is bothering me, I am being a bad home maker, wife. I do still take care of Jr. well. I wish my family was close by so I could get a break from Jr… Maybe if someone could take care of him for a few hours I could use my energy to do the chores… I feel so helpless and lost and poor hubby is so understanding and kind. Any tips advice on how to overcome this pregnancy fatigue…
you arent being a bad homemaker, a baby is a lot of work. if your hubby is understanding and kind, you are way better off than a lot of new parents are (i know i had a zillion fights about chores/messiness/etc). what worked for us is setting down some rules and making a plan of sorts. you'll have to learn to be a little more messy than before, this will save you a lot of energy. try and offload the baby chores onto hubby during weekends so that you get to unwind too.
you're pregnant AND mom to a toddler. don't be so hard on yourself.
but if there's stuff you want to get done, take queer's advice. sit down with your hubby, make a plan, and have SMALL manageable realistic goals for each day.
Where do you live? Can you order food from outside?? I know it seems like its a lot of work. First of all things don't have to be perfect and secondly although it may seem a lot that you have to do, once you start doing it, it won't take long at all to clean. I live alone too and my husband is out of state a lot of time and he just works late. I try to get my sleep which give me a lot of energy for the rest of the day. So get sleep and you'll feel so much better and have energy to do things.
You can have a cleaning lady come in once a month, if budget is a issue. Once the house is fully clean, it will be easier to keep up. During my maternity leave i had a cleaning lady come in 4 times (in two months.) Now that i m back at work things aren't as messy.
This is how my hubby and i have divided chores:
Hubby: Takes out all the trash, grocery shopping, if i cook, thn he does the dishes, he takes care of the baby frm 9 to midnight (the time i sleep) and after i take over if the baby needs anything.
Me: Cooking (only on the weekends, since my mom is staying with as during the week.) I do all the cleaning (no more cleaning ladies), laundry, dishes, baby shopping (which i do online.)
As far as cleaning goes, pre-pregnancy i use to be able to do everything on Sundays, but i cant do that anymore. So whenever i get a chance i do a little. Like i will dust the furniture during the week, do the laundry during the week as well. so divide up the task so it’s more manageable.
… Haven’t even cooked in 2 days. I don’t have the energy to dress up Jr. and go to the corner grocery store. What do I do? I am sleepy, exhausted, fatigued all the time. We just moved to a new city, new job 3 months ago. Hubby is still going through the settling in at work phase with new clients, different work methodology and since it is his busy season he has also been working late.