these are public forums so i can not explain what kind of situation is here. but i think it would be suffice to say that i dont want to date someone from work, because if it goes all wrong, then it haunts you in the workplace. I had once complimented a woman at work and she said that she was not comfortable with compliments. but that was not all. she had told every woman at work that she had given me that treatment. for the record i said " you look great in these clothes". I have also talked about another thing that had happened with a work colleague. and i have put the whole story here. I think you are getting the wrong message from what i write here. perhaps i should never turn to people here for advice. because one thing is that i can not put down everything on these boards. and secondly, in true desi fashion you start making up assumptions. I want to discover new people. why should i limit my world to work? and for that reason i had asked for an advice. I have a lot of friends. but i am not looking for friends, guys or ladies. but i keep friendships and relationships in separate baskets and that is how it should go. I have seen people who, when interested in a woman, would call her a sister and meet her and start dating her. i have seen that numerous times. and i hate that. I would never call someone a sister for the purpose of coming near her and dating her. i think that is detestable. but people in the desi community do that. and that happens a lot. so much for the morality here. If i am being candid about what i want, what is wrong with that?
Maybe we, at least I am misunderstanding you, and I apologize for that.
If you are looking to date a girl in Karachi, I guess the most decent way of doing it would be to socialize with your family and naturally run into a girl who would like to know you as well. Somehow meeting strangers gives a wrong impression of your intentions. The kind of girls who are so easily available in special places aren't really looking for longeterm relationships and I'm sure you are wise enough to know that. Our culture is such that girls from good families and/or values like to protect their reputations and don't like to be "set up" for "dating"... at least that is how it was a few years ago...