LP
October 31, 2017, 1:34pm
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Bobby1:
I was eavesdropping while she was talking to her friend about me, I thought she will say that I am good looking, make a good living, cook, clean, spend hours with our kids activities and much more but the surprising thing she said she likes the most about me is that I let her do whatever she pleases, so giving you spouse a lot of room is a big thing. She does whatever she pleases.
I don’t think the eavesdropping part was good but, the fact that you give your spouse a lot of room is praiseworthy.
PS: Don’t spoil my compliment by responding with a negative comment regarding desis or Muslims please.
Bobby1
October 31, 2017, 1:54pm
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LP:
I don’t think the eavesdropping part was good but, the fact that you give your spouse a lot of room is praiseworthy.
PS: Don’t spoil my compliment by responding with a negative comment regarding desis or Muslims please.
It wasnt like really eavesdropping I was just doing some chores and I could hear them talk. My wife is a muslim and I love her values.
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Bobby1:
I was eavesdropping while she was talking to her friend about me, I thought she will say that I am good looking, make a good living, cook, clean, spend hours with our kids activities and much more but the surprising thing she said she likes the most about me is that I let her do whatever she pleases, so giving you spouse a lot of room is a big thing. She does whatever she pleases.
Aww this is so cute. She’s so lucky.
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I wanted to know how everyone thinks about it lol
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IsaidwhatIsaid:
“The West” is good if you have a middle class or higher social status. Otherwise it is going to be a struggle in a location you aren’t even familiar with. Pulling up one’s social status is not guaranteed, or even going to be a fair battle (you can work as hard as you want, but sometimes the luck you need to exponentially make your financial status great won’t reach you). But let’s be real here. Trying to gain status and a better financial state in “the West” is probably more possible than doing that in Pakistan. This is also omitting the 5,000,000 other factors that would indicate a better quality of life in the West compared to Pakistan. I’m speaking from an American POV, so IDK about Canada and the countries of Europe and their conditions.
Sometimes you really need to look at the situation objectively before letting your nationalist tendencies and pride get in the way.
I agree, but generally speaking how would you feel if the guy is more interested in settling in your country than in you?
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Hakuna_Matata:
haye haye!! innay mushkil sawaal cafe ke bachon se
Ok here’s the thing.. it’s all about easy big-money 50% of the time.. it’s just a general statement.. I am not pointing out anyone.. and I am including whole subcontinent and some other parts of the world in it too.. and honestly quality has nothing to do with it.. There is much more quality in Pakistan too, you just dont know it yet..
and why west?? because those countries are richer and offers good salaries.. also, the main difference is in currency rate.. which is around 1 to 100.. so a person earning there 10k a month means 100 times more money in here.. plus points..
and now to preferences, I think there’s a big difference in style of raising a child in both cultures.. which is a big deal.. Western people have more broader minds.. and they usually have no problem in dating other people or choosing their life partner by their own.. maybe I am wrong here, but I am saying what I heard from my family/friend’s experiences.. and also people there have more freedom and courage than here, which helps them take decisions on their own.. (again this is just a general statement).. and about desi culture.. people here are more into old culture, in which parents kept a hold on their children, dating here is a bad thing.. you dont see people dating here.. though some kids do it chori chori.. however, people here are married for once and forever(more than 80%).. and they are so many more things, which is why, western parents/people look for a good person/rishta in subcontinent, no matter muslim/hindu/sikh etc etc..
and no one is so dumb that they dont know desi usually agrees for a foreign rishta cause of money.. westerns know they have a plus point of being in west…
and now to other half of the 50%.. I am ONLY sharing it because I’ve seen it with my own eyes.. so NO, not everyone is marrying for money.. My cousin married a British born girl which is now living in PAKISTAN with him, and they are enjoying life alhamdulillah.. so quality or money have nothing to do with it and guess what, they were friends on Facebook, then became love birds, and then Patti Patni.. there is another one who married a girl in CA, he moved with her to CA, he was well settled here, but pyar andha hota hai naa.. and I know so many who are married to western born girls and boys living happily in here and in west too.. and they did not marry for money..
Overall, it’s a give and take relation.. everyone have to compromise a bit everytime.. No one will ever find a servant.. you shake hands for marriage happily, then keep shaking it until the death.. it’s what Islam says..
I agree with you, but I was particularly talking about the ‘west preference’. Marriage is a sacred institution, it should not be treated as some career hunt.
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Bobby1:
No!! hygiene is a big thing for both of us, her eldest sister who passed away had shared with me that she cant stand her husband because of smoking smell and although he was very well placed and educated he ate gutka and ruined his teeth. You could be walking on water and don’t floss, I don’t want you.
Lol you make me laugh. Cute.
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How interesting! I’ve always heard the opposite from my girl friends!
Bobby1
October 31, 2017, 5:43pm
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It is normal for you and that is what counts, I was never single in my life and all the girls I have been with appreciated the fact that I can cook. My view of being a perfect man is someone who is kind and gentle with his family and tougher than nails for adversaries. That is how I raised my boys also, they cook and clean and yet have six packs and shredded bodies.
LP
October 31, 2017, 6:28pm
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I wouldn’t want my husband or myself to cook either. Just a preference.
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I would destroy any possibilities of that by marrying a fellow Pakistani-American for starters.
Besides that, isn’t that most arranged marriages anyways? It is not a “beautiful union between two individuals” it’s practically a business deal between two families so it would make sense people would add on citizenship in a better country as way to advertise their son or daughter. If a job is also something that is traditionally looked at as a selling point for marriage it is not a stretch that the fact that someone resides in America would be used as one too.
Bobby1
October 31, 2017, 9:05pm
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So if you don’t and husband doesn’t and children refuse then who will cook?
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You will have a live in chef?!
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thank you.. yes that’s a bitter truth and we cant change it.. maybe time will..
hahaha
and I really appreciates your POV on cooking.. it’s the same as mine.. I know wife have right to not cook, etc, but what if she cooks?? no harm in cooking, and if she do, she’ll be an Aala-zarf insan and a good caring friendly wife.. so yeah I really like that way and majority of people in Pakistan too..
P.S: If no one wants to cook.. then Langar from Data Darbaar Zindabad..
LP
November 1, 2017, 12:06am
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What Fbp said
Hopefully :sid:daydreaming
Bobby1
November 1, 2017, 12:16am
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We had all kinds of help back home, I was served tea in my bedroom, then I came here and I am the help now. Doing things for loved ones is a satisfying act. There is a wife and then there is a mother of your children and when a woman gives you children, you owe your life to her. I was with her at all 3 c sections and if someone can do that for you, that is the most incredible thing.
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IsaidwhatIsaid:
I would destroy any possibilities of that by marrying a fellow Pakistani-American for starters.
Besides that, isn’t that most arranged marriages anyways? It is not a “beautiful union between two individuals” it’s practically a business deal between two families so it would make sense people would add on citizenship in a better country as way to advertise their son or daughter. If a job is also something that is traditionally looked at as a selling point for marriage it is not a stretch that the fact that someone resides in America would be used as one too.
Youuuuu rockkkkkk Girl!!! You just said what I had in my mind!!
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Hakuna_Matata:
thank you.. yes that’s a bitter truth and we cant change it.. maybe time will..
hahaha
and I really appreciates your POV on cooking.. it’s the same as mine.. I know wife have right to not cook, etc, but what if she cooks?? no harm in cooking, and if she do, she’ll be an Aala-zarf insan and a good caring friendly wife.. so yeah I really like that way and majority of people in Pakistan too..
P.S: If no one wants to cook.. then Langar from Data Darbaar Zindabad..
Lol
well actually I didnt want to quote other posts or points from the thread so I wrote it all here, I hope you wont mind 
