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infact, it's more important to 'like' than to 'love.'
it's important to like someone before loving them : )
there are some people in our lives, whom we may love but unfortunately not like.
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this is one of the reasons I dont want an arranged marriage -its a gamble...
I think love should be there before marriage. otherwise you'll spend the rest of your life living like robots.
in her case, I think she should work on it. have a talk with her husband. is the guy from the same country as her? was he related to her? did they not talk at all before marriage? its sad to hear this kinda stories.
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there are some people in our lives, whom we may love but unfortunately not like.
give me an example of these kind of people? it doesnt make sense what you said. like comes before love. we always like the person we love......but we dont always love the person we like.
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^ it may not have made sense to you cos you may not have experienced it.
good on u : )
well what i meant is this - we may have differences with people whom we share a bond of blood with. or between a husband and wife. this could be due to differences in opinions, ways of life or just about anything. due to this, we may not necessarily like them. but when we're away from them, we realize we do love them in a weird way. just cos they're your mother, father, sibling, spouse. that's reason enough to love them.
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I can think of relationships between family members.. like you love someone coz they're ur blood and ur knida obligated to..but as far as liking them (meaning you talk to them, u can be their freind, u enjoy hanging out together, theres a friendship tehre n everything) that may nto always be there..
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Afridi bro slow down...divorce isnt always the answer...its a final step...to be honest the girl probably needs to re-evaluate her expectations of what marriage is...its not some bollywood movie but a partnership and a compromise and she needs to understand that...
If she likes her husband it seems ok to me...things could be a hell of a lot worse...
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Oh gosh! I heard similar issues through friends etc and i backed out before things got too complicated. It was a wise decision of mine.
I know i can't be with a man if there isn't a mutual love involved.
*sigh... I know this friend of mine is going through a similar situation.. She loves him but he doesn't love her. I can even see in his eyes he doesnt love her at all. He is living with her for the sake of living a married life. Its sad to see both of them...
I can guarantee you one thing. That guy had his own past and partially he lives in that past in his heart. Men have a huge problem when its the issue of letting go. He may never admit but he probably thinks about his first love every now and then.
When you love someone you want to hear them talk constantly for ages and not get bored ever....
She has to break that shell and drag him out of that world...
atleast thats what i see here...
This is what she can do
*drop the child to parent;s house and plan surprise trip some where even if its for a weekend.
*leave a love note every now and then in his wallet....
*she should just go and sit on his lap and start talking..
*while he is watching tv just keeep staring at him and go with deep sincerity that she loves him.
*buy his favorite thing and leave it for him at his office.
*every now and then do a surprise visit at work...
*act like a little child when she is around him
*be care free... do halla gulla all over the house...
*bring a new life in her be a lot more energetic..
*go and see a sunrise on saturday morning and stay there till sunset..
*start talking about everything about your childhood and start asking more questions...
*get to know him.. more
*forget he is her husband for a while...
*try to get to know him as a person...
a woman knows how to make a guy fall in love with her ;) she should use all those tricks ;)
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Q. ** How do you tickle a bored wife?
**Ans. Say, "Gucci Gucci Gucci!"
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after pregnancy women's sex takes a plunge, they start despising men even more,may be thats the reason she does'nt love him.
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Guys!... get a little serious here instead of bashing each other...
can you imagine how one can possibly feel when they are not being loved by their spouse?
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haha joker
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:k:
Larki NYC has given good advice too.
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Isn’t that like 80% of desi couples?
How can she marry someone she didnt love int he first place? AND have a kid with him(that means sleeping with soemone you dont even love?)
I didnt know you could maek urself fall in love with someone 
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And Pakistani women are all aphodites. 
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That's a difficult situation depending on your personal priorities. For some people it's just enough to have someone who makes a good spouse and good parent and treats their parents well. But for most people today, including myself, we need a deeper love. Sometimes it comes with time. It can be an admiration and respect for the spouse if it's not a wild, passionate feeling. For your friend my advice would be to look at the positive things she does have and to pray that a love develops. Does she have a good man, who's a good Muslim, who respects her and wants her to be happy? Maybe she should try to do some activities with him, some tennis or something. They need to have some more things in common, some other things to discuss other than bills and kids.
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saima and nia i believe you two are unmarried, believe me our desi men dont care much about women and their wants...they just want their wants met and kaput nothing else matters...hopefully our new generation of desi girls and guys will change things for better, but to be honest we are all very selfish creatures, so i dont think there will be any changes in the near future.
a man only wants a woman for one thing and after that he wants her to leave him the hell alone so he can enjoy his time doing more constructive things such as watch tv, spend hours on his work shop or just go off some where without the nagging wife.
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Can you really blame the guy? He was probably fed the whole arranged marriage thing all his life, its hard to find someone your mother picked romantic :-/
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No, actually I’ve been married for almost 7 years and we have 2 kids. I don’t agree that generally our desi men don’t care about women. I think that’s a very narrow minded statement. I"m sure there are many examples of bad relationships in our communities. But I think it’s human nature to love and to want to be loved in return. I don’t think any man is that cold that he just uses his wife and then lives his own life. I personally don’t know any men like that.