Crying without any reason..agitated and irritated by small things..being extremely sensitive…not enjoying socializing including hanging out with friends or family…sleep loss…I used to be fun-loving person but I am no more the same..last night after isha namaz I cried soooo much that I had sub-conjunctival hemorrhage (blood clot in eye though its not harmful as doctor says) and I did’t let my husband know about this crying thing…
This is what happens to me after every few days…I got married 10 months back and is living in Saudi Arabia with hubby…my husband says u r being psychotic and u should go to Pakistan for a few months..but I don’t want to leave my house or husband..what should I do?
I like reading books but sometimes this doesn’t help in making me feel better…we go out every evening to malls or restaurants or other places so its not that I am locked up in a house for days…I try to keep myself busy by reading books or cooking or other things but still i go through this whole condition after every few days…I can feel I am a boring person now..please help me in knowing y is this happening to me and how can I be back to normal again..i am so much worried about this all..
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Do you have people you can hang out with in Saudi?
Do you go out??
yes i have some friends here and i do go out with them but ofcourse hubby is also with me...coz over here u have that mehram wala ckakkar...anyways last night when i had lots and lots of crying over nothing,i spent the whole day hanging out with my friend..we went to zoo and then malls and then restaurant...but still i was feeling so low..even with her,i was not enjoying..i just pretended to be happy but i wasn't..i didnt take any pictures while she was enjoying alot with her hubby..she did all the talking and i listened without interest...
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I think u need some sense of achievement. Join a class or something. See if you can involve yourself in social work. Being out in nature really helps, see if you can begin a project cultivating a vegetable garden in your backyard or just sit outside and read
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yes i have some friends here and i do go out with them but ofcourse hubby is also with me...coz over here u have that mehram wala ckakkar...anyways last night when i had lots and lots of crying over nothing,i spent the whole day hanging out with my friend..we went to zoo and then malls and then restaurant...but still i was feeling so low..even with her,i was not enjoying..i just pretended to be happy but i wasn't..i didnt take any pictures while she was enjoying alot with her hubby..she did all the talking and i listened without interest...
How do you know it's not depression? There must be a reason you're feeling so low..
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How do you know it's not depression? There must be a reason you're feeling so low..
exactly i have no apparent reason to feel low..y should i be depressed when i have people around me to socialize,to hang out..i am not sitting in home all the time...i have many chores to do around the house...i do shopping whenever i like..i eat whatever i like...my husband is good enough(like most husbands are)...
though i have many unfulfilled dreams like every person has...i wanted to have a successful career,i wanted to do PhD..at times these things frustrate me...but does that give me a good reason to behave like that?..i have the option to study further,to work(my husband has no problem with that)...i can study or work whenever i like...y should i be depressed then?
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That sounds like me..same thing happened to me!! and I have figured that it is because I feel that I have lost my good friends..the real friends I had back home before I moved here and when I moved after I got married I was 26...I am 31 now and still got some of those feelings deep inside me..cuz the locals are not very welcoming or including..be it the goras or the PAkistani community here so I feel that even though I know a hell lot ppl I am not really close to more than just one person whom I consider as a good friend..
I guess it is a hard thing to move to a new place at the age of 25+ cuz of the difficulty to find new friends that u can confide in...
what I have learnt so far is to keep superficial ties with some ppl instead of totally isolating myself..cuz that is really depressing and lonely!!
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Awwie. Maybe you are just someone who needs more time to adjust to a new place/new family/new enviorement. I am sure you miss your family and home, its all natural but don’t let it get the better of you :). I think you should def enroll for phd as it will not only only keep you busy from depression/anxiety but at the same time you wl be fulfilling your dreams :k:.
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thanks zareen..but no,i don’t miss my family at all and yeah its quite un natural..the reason being i have not been brought up in a normal or say complete family…anyways that’s another story..but surely home sickness or country sickness is not the reason…and yeah i am also thinking on continuing my studies…
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did you use to feel the same unknown kind of melancholy before marriage too? If yes then im afraid its depression. No apparent reason tells its depression apparently . How do you know its not depression?
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you better see a psychiatrist...only professionals can diagnose whether you are depressed or not AND more importantly treat your condition. remember one thing, depression must not be left untreated otherwise it will manifest in physical disorders.
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You don’t need a reason to be depressed. Clinical depression usually occurs for the most ridiculous reason. Before you self-diagnose yourself, and ignore symptoms of real depression, which btw CAN be cured, I would highly recommend that you take this self-assessment quiz and it can tell you whether you need to seek professional help or it’s just something else that is making you feel this way.
Please do not dismiss any signs of clinical depression. It’s a very serious issue, and ignoring it will never ever help you.
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You're basically under house arrest. Culture tells you you have a husband, he doesn't beat you and you have food, therefore you must be happy. However, you cannot go about like a normal adult person as you have been used to, and any dreams of a career or life beyond that is locked away outside the char divar. You're not even supposed to want it. I'd be depressed, too.
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Please get it checked by a doctor before it gets on severe level. I have a friend that went through exactly like you and even my mum! Its totally psychological, you have everything you dont have anything to worry about but yet you cry and feel low and if you dont try to fix it, it gets worst...im so sorry im not even trying to scare you here but from what you have written it resembles to my mum and friend's case. It takes time to cure my mum suffered for almost 10yrs but it was very severe when it started she didnt even realize it but there was a time where she could not even stay alone at home she would want to have somebody around her..and her early symptoms were just like yours and even my friend went through the same. Symptoms vary person to person but it surely is depression/Anxiety make yourself busy like get a job or something or do some course. Hopefully it would get better.
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Crying without any reason..agitated and irritated by small things..being extremely sensitive…not enjoying socializing including hanging out with friends or family…sleep loss…I used to be fun-loving person but I am no more the same..last night after isha namaz I cried soooo much that I had sub-conjunctival hemorrhage (blood clot in eye though its not harmful as doctor says) and I did’t let my husband know about this crying thing…
This is what happens to me after every few days…I got married 10 months back and is living in Saudi Arabia with hubby…my husband says u r being psychotic and u should go to Pakistan for a few months..but I don’t want to leave my house or husband..what should I do?
I like reading books but sometimes this doesn’t help in making me feel better…we go out every evening to malls or restaurants or other places so its not that I am locked up in a house for days…I try to keep myself busy by reading books or cooking or other things but still i go through this whole condition after every few days…I can feel I am a boring person now..please help me in knowing y is this happening to me and how can I be back to normal again..i am so much worried about this all..:(
Depression & Being guilty of not getting pregnant.
Praying, hangout with friends is not a cure for this. You need to understand and put this in your head that life is not about just this. It's more then that, you have to found some hobbies or i don't how it works in Saudia, get a job or something where you can spend like at least 10 hours outside of your home. You need to get busy or you will get suicidal !
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post wedding depression for sure.
after all that attention one gets right before the wedding and after that...one is expecting a new change in life...so much to look forward to...and then suddenly...full stop.honeymoon over.back to life.now its making you unhappy...thinking..over and over...is this all?this was it? meant?you are not basically very happy i guess at the moment.start a family..maybe a baby would keep you busy..maybe a good change that you need.or as you say...you wanted to study more and all...maybe negative thoughts pinching you about what you could have done instead of going with a random friend to eat..and shop.you could have done better things in life post-marriage syndrome..
start thinking positive.start studying again if youwant to.
how old are you btw?
maybe this is just a phase...you'll go by it.stay strong.you are closer to God now..see...thats a positive change!Allah(SWT) will give you strenght and hope,courage.
last time crying out was good....you had it all in you,you took it out..and prayed!
everyone has a phase one time or the other...true.
so..hang in there.things will get better:)
