I know I sound hella desperate right now

[lahorikudi]

Re: I know I sound hella desperate right now

@redvelvet

Maybe the reason for his disappearing was that there was something shady about him and his family. If that’s the case, I doubt he’d admit to it. He and his family left you hanging.…that’s hurtful especially to you…they didn’t even have the courtesy to make up an excuse for not pursuing the rishta. They’ve no respect for your feelings, for your time. If he wanted you, he’d have remained in touch. He’s moved on with his life…so why should you contact him and give them the idea that you’re still stuck on him? That’s exactly what he’ll think. The final decision is up to you; you can contact him if you think it’ll help you. But I think that there’s a possibility it might leave you feeling worse. Sometimes we have to be the ones to provide ourselves with closure by deciding to move on.

That’s what my gut says and of course, the unrealistic/irrational part of me is hoping that by messaging him, he’d admit that there was something wrong with THEM. But they won’t. If my interactions with them have taught me anything, it’s that he and his family ALWAYS play the victim.