hey guppies i have got a problem.recently i discussed sumthing here and seriously the suggestions i got were really good and my hubby has really been dere for me after i spoke to him that i require time.neways yesterday my hubby came home and said his best friend (i know the best friend) called him that his wife needs a good outfit for a desi wedding ASAP. me having a outlet hubby said please pick up sumthing which is for shadi but not sleeveless or capris as she wont wear it i said ok i did so and since den i have been so upset as i dun know why im doubting him..is it my mind or what i just cant figure out. i spoke to mum in law as she is here dese days about what happened she laughed and said its just that u are thinking negative…if he wanted sumthing for sum girl he could secretly go to any designer shop and get it…and why would ur hubby pay at ur own outlet if he was playing games…but i just couldnt sleep all nite and have been crying since last nite…please suggest me sumthing.
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well tbqh ive lost sleep over some real issues.
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Mehroze, I guess you are very possessive about him. Which is fine and natural and your right. I do not think he is playing games with you. When you are doing a wrong thing like chori, u become extra careful coz you know you are doing a wrong thing and do not want others to have even a small hint/clue of it. So if he was doing something wrong, he would have not told you to buy dress yourself at first place.
Dont worry its only Shaitaan trying to distract you. Creating doubts b/w husband and wife is his favorite game. Dont let him succeed. Say Astaghfirullah e Rabbi min....... full astaghfar, as much as possible and whenever any such thought comes to your mind. All will be fine InshAllah.
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ur MIL seems right.
and even if she is not, what really can you do?
Usually the husbands who cheat somehow manage to convince their wives that they're insane for doubting him.
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i dun knw wht i wud do now
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Straight_Up, u reckon he may be cheating?
hmm i dunno.
Sometimes i think when us wives are overworked and when husband's are spending more time at work (for real reasons) we get a bit psychotic... seriously.
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hmmmmm i dun knw sumtymes i feel why duz life become so difficult when everything is just so perfect things just get messed up
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Life was never a bed of roses.
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^Just because he asked you for an outfit you suspect him of having an affair?
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hmmmm yea
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Mehroze, you are creating your own worst enemy - yourself.
Your doubts will drive your husband away, stop it now. Imagine if your own husband was like that with u, a jealous, suspicious minded husband, how would you feel?
mehroze, maybe you are overreacting..maybe u r stressing cause you are overworked at home..maybe? i dunno..BuT JuSt In caSe..later you find out it is true..
you DOnt Give=E uP!..you can still win..it can just be a temporary interest bcs of problems at home, boredom or stress..do not think that it is the end of the world..
haan lekin tum pehle confirm to karlo ke actually yehi baat heh b4 ugo charging int trying ot wIn..
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my mother in law says im just thinking negative i spoke to his brother who is my childhood friend and he was laughing saying if he had to gift another woman he wud not ask u to get her sumthing from ur own outlet and dat even of ur own choice he wud take her out and get her sumthing of her own choice and that mehroze u are not the only designer in town there are so many outlets...i mean i just feel so confused
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try to get this off your mind by going to some English classes.
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Why dont you ask him to show you pictures of the wedding or something where she is wearing that outfit? Tell him you need it for an ad campaign or marketing material and that was the last piece of its kind.
thank u guys for all ur sugesstions MIL made both of us me and hubby sit down and talked to us about the outfit issue.....he just said to me i am really sorry if i made you feel this way....why dont u gave friends wife a call...so MIL said yes go and call her...and i did she was really happy with the fact that we sent her the outfit n so on i just said bhabhi you will be getting it delievered soon please do let me know if you like it or not. i felt so guilty after all this...
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told you that 
anyway good now you are happy and satisfied 
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Mehroze you got such a nice MIL..mashaAllah..U are reallly very lucky !