…who does not know about the birds and the bumblybees. Should I tell her or should I just let her find out for herself?
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How old is she? And can I do it for you? :D
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Looolll I'm sure that'll go down well!
She's 20 :/
Not sure what the age of consent is for you, lovey.
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EU standard - 16 :D Yikes! At 20 she should be experimenting not learning......
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if you care about your friend, you should tell her, it would be more comforting coming from a friend, i mean if her mother feels too awkward to do it. i wish they taught sex ed in school in south asia
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We have sex education in this country, she just was never allowed to participate in the lessons cos her parents wouldn't give permission. She's quite sheltered (not like me, I found out when I was like, 6?)
I've come across as few girls who don't know about this. Was just wondering whether to let her know now before any potential husbands scare the crap out of her on their suhaag raat :D
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the nice thing to do would be to be a friend and not embarrass her with her new hubby, if she's at the legal age to get married. she probably doesnt' want to be clueless or look silly on her wedding night.
20, k, and she's in the uk? i feel bad for her that her parents are like that
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Are youngsters in West are really that naive? I wonder how come she doesn't know anything at 20? Young children in Pakistan are far more mature and grown-up these days.
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The answer lies in midget porn.
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By not knowing anything, you mean like, literally?? She believes the stork delivers babies to the hospital and all that jazz? Or she is just ignorant of the actual process of doing the deed, and assumes that holding hands gets you pregnant? 
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Err. I haven't asked her full details. I think she thinks kissing makes you pregnant. I don't think she believes in the whole storky thingy, she understands pregnancy but probly not child birth. I just don't know how to go there with her cos I'll feel bad for making fun out of her :/
Jaanwar you sick man, not everyone learned about sex the way you did!
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FFS Maddy, a 20 year old who thinks kissing makes you pregnant? She is just mucking about, and quite obviously she got you good. Ideally though, it could be that she has the hots for you and wants you to start explaining things and she will take it from there. You know? That kind of stuff.
Keep a camcorder handy, should that be the case.
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Hey man! It ain't like that!
And the thing is, she's not the only one I know who's being naive about sex!
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Er... I dunno why there were so many exclamation marks there, but I've calmed down now.
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Hand her one of those “everything you need to know about pregnancy” books and put her in a room alone with a box of tissues, the strongest drink she can legally take and sit outside waiting for the reaction…when you here her shout “WTF!!” enter and do damage control… 
Jokes aside, I was in your situation once…my Khala’s bahu was imported from KHI, and god bless, was dumb as rocks when it came to just about everything. Very sweet girl, but she led an extremely sheltered and simple life. So about 1 day before the Shaadi, while at the salon with her, I realized that her mom sent her half away across the world, alone, to marry a complete stranger without giving her “the talk”. Oye Ve!! I tried in the most gentlest, easiest manner to explain the basics, but I could tell she wasn’t quite getting it…so I handed her one of my pregnancy books that was full of pictures and diagrams of human anatomy…I have never seen a person actually turn white! LMAO!!
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Tell her?
You meant, SHOW her, right?
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See! It’s not just me. One of my friends came over from Pakistan to London when she was 14, when I met her in uni she was unaware about…a lot of stuff.
Also, my cousins have told me a lot of stories about girls they know in Lahore who weren’t given the talk and how it went wrong. One girl, on her wedding night, attacked her husband and started screaming and shouting that he was trying to hurt her 
Eek.
Actually a book is a very good idea
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If she's a close friend, you really ought to have a talk with her.
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Err. I haven't asked her full details. I think she thinks kissing makes you pregnant. I don't think she believes in the whole storky thingy, she understands pregnancy but probly not child birth. I just don't know how to go there with her cos I'll feel bad for making fun out of her :/
Jaanwar you sick man, not everyone learned about sex the way you did!
Er, no lessons on biology in the UK? Surely they cover fertilization of the ovum and all that jazz...
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... I think she thinks kissing makes you pregnant...
Then kiss her and ask her to see an obstetrician/gyno. Those poor souls need some humor once in a while.