I seriously can’t stand my sister sometimes. The one thing we consistently have fights over is that I do most of the cleaning and tidying up around the house and she does barely anything. Even when it’s her turn to do a chore, I have to consistently remind her. Even small things, like picking up her clothes from the living room, I have to remind her to do that and she’ll only do half the work and I have to do the rest to avoid a serious fight. But I don’t have time, I ****in don’t have time to sleep, cook, anything, and she NEEDS to do things without me reminding her that it’s her turn. Seriously, it starts building up and has created tremendous resentment. We live like roommates. Right now she spilled coke on the keyboard and it’s sticky but of course, I will have to remind her to clean up her mess and that will create a fight about how I nag.
She also never apologizes. A few days ago we had a fight in school and she was rude to me in front of some ****ing stranger. I swore at her (in private) and walked off and later, I was the one who apologized, she never apologized for her behavior. She never tries to fix things when they **** up between us. And I am getting so ****ing tired.
We are NOT rivals i.e. jealous of each other or competing for something. And we already are very far apart. I have no involvement in her life and friends, she rarely talks to my husband or is involved in my life.
Shukar ada kiya kareen. You have just once sister like that I have 2 brothers who are like that. They are just so untidy. The cupboards are always empty cuz all their clothes are all over.
So now i want to know is what makes a person want to be arranged, organized and tidy. Is it in the genes or is it nurtured. If its in the genes i want to gentically get them fixed cuz they are such a ....
Now I know what I put my older sisters through. :(
We used to fight A LOT the fs and bs used to fly all over the place, and there wasnt much age diff between us - but once they got married, we all became very civil with each other. :D
Don't do anything anymore. Don't ipck up after her. I'm sure it'll drive you nuts seeing her crap all over, but i'm sure she'lll get the mssage. Good luck :D
I know the feeling :) i used to fight with my sisters, for the same reason.
at that time HATE seems the right word.
If she's not involved in your life, then maybe ignore her ghalitiyan. there's nothing you can do to change her.
I am the best youngest sister ever, i never let my elder sister lift a finger when she visits our parents, and she loves me loadz. so i guess i am doing ok in that department.
my sis and i fight too…but then its like we don’t stay mad for long time…usually she comes and apologizes and then i say my sorries and we both (not really but sometimes cuz she is emotional and depending on the fight). And recently she is acting weird cuz we are getting married so she sleeps in my room …i mean the beds huge enough in my room…but whats wrong with her room??? LOL…she is just getting all emotional that we will never see each other again…but really we will inshallah inshallah inshallah.
Just try to hang out with ur sis and be friends…lay out some rules for cleaning
Have you ever sat down and had a heart to heart with her, told her how you feel and how she always makes you feel? I’m assuming you have.
Ask her what she wants from you and your relationship as ‘sisters’. Does she really want there to be so much resentment and distance between you two? Have your parents ever said anything to her about her behaviour and attitude towards you?
(not really but sometimes cuz she is emotional and depending on the fight). And recently she is acting weird cuz we are getting married so she sleeps in my room 
…i mean the beds huge enough in my room…but whats wrong with her room??? LOL…she is just getting all emotional that we will never see each other again…but really we will inshallah inshallah inshallah.