What kind of people are we breeding if the the advice is to "run" at the first sign of trouble? What happened to caring about someone so much that you would endure anything for him?
Why can't we look at his parents as folks that are just as weary of what their son may have gotten himself into?
Hence the state of our society these days. No tolerance. Too many unrealistic expectations.
The poster does not seem like she is a Pakistani. Her future in-laws behavior support fully that because of that they are MORE wary... They might be concerned that if the person is from other culture - especially a girl - then how will she teach her kids to be a Pakistani? They do not want to lose their cultural value.
If the poster is a Pakistani in Spain - then let me know - so I know that the parents are not being indifferent to where the girl is from.