Is your husband the only one who had a love marriage among his married siblings? I think that could very well be the reason why they treat you badly. Some families look very much down at love marriages. You've to remember even girls who have arrange marriages end in such troubles with MIL, so in your case its just a tad worse, since you are not even picked by HER. We didnt have a love marriage Sweet. It was arranged - it was only love at first and we said yes straightaway! But then everyone was so nice - i guess its only afterwards, you find out what type of people they really are. Some people are plain ungrateful for what others do for them (I think its really good of you to help them in the house, but try not to do everything to teach them a lesson maybe?), I would say you should ignore them, but then again I guess it must be very hard. But def. you shouldnt take abuse from your hubby's siblings, if you are not saying anything to them, they have no right to abuse you or no reason at all to abuse ur parents .. gosh why desis always bring someones parents into it?!? .. Of course they have no right to be like this with me. If i dont do some of the things, MIL moans even more. That is why i just do what they are asking me to and get out of there asap! Anywayz, like many said you should tell your husband. I know you feel you will depress him more and he is already "worked" out, but really you should tell him, so he can make arrangements for another house/appartment. In small issues I really think wives shouldnt drag their hubbies into every argument they have with their MIL, but in your case it simply seems so personal and extreme that I think you need to do so. I think if you dont, you might end up with a depression and reading ur previous posts, I've read u are planning for a pregnancy? Def. not good in that state at all .. i have informed my husband that i hope they are not going to treat me like this when i am pregnant inshallah and he is aware - but if they do - then its gonna be serious trouble for them. I really am going to shout my head off - it really wouldnt be fair on my health in that situation. Edit: Just read tht your hubby is the younger one ..Well mother happens to be extra attached to the younger sons and actually in my family its a tradition too tht parents live with the youngest son and not the oldest. I really think the problem of your MIL is that she has not picked u .. Maybe u should confront her? Are you able to chitchat with her at all? Tell her abt yourself.. ur likes, family and values? Maybe she will appreciate u more:)
*Sweet, if she says anything, i think i will have to do this now. I WILL bloody talk to her because i cannot take any more of this now. *