I feel so hurt...i dont know if i can cope anymore...

[Sunset_Eyes]

@Ira

Aww Sunset, i am so sorry to hear about this behaviour!!! Yaar i know you dont want to bother your husband but dont you think he will be the best listener for you? I am sure he wouldnt want you to hurt like this.

Have you ever talked to the inlaws and see what exactly is that bothers them? Do it respectfully infront of your husband so they cant twist anything. Staying quiet doesnt help anyone, maybe try to see what their point of view is, in all of this. Hope the situation gets a bit better

I just dont want to talk to him Ira - he works hard himself and i dont want him to listen to my probs - it will just make it worse for him. I mean he knows what kind of stuff they are saying but i havent told him the extent of it - of how i am feeling. You see, he doesnt get along with his father that well anyway - i mean he’s told me that he has dealt with their nagging since he was young and he is used to that. For me its new and just plain unfair.

i have started replying once in a blue moon infront of hubby but they just twist it around but when hubby is out the room, it comes back out again! Their POV is that i am not doing enough around the house…sigh

@hsap

keep on working … best solution for u (enjoy yr time when u’re outside , like have lunch or coffee with a friend )

with khushiyan do they meant kids ?? i assume that u’re the first daughter in law in the family in that case most families expect to have grandkids too at home, also such families take more time to adjust at this new addition to family just like it happens with girls who’ve gotten married into that family

Thats the thing hsap - i am enjoying my time AH - but i dont think they like that! By khushiyan, i meant in terms of taking them out all the time, treating them and buy things for them. I just dont get the time to take them all the time as i am working and when i am not working, i am either doing house chores (which bear in mind they are not happy with). Mashallah they have 6 grandkids so they shouldnt have anything to complain about. And they have another DIL who they favour the most - she is the best according to them. Always praising her infront of me…comparing me to them!

@Choozy

This is just so sad! I do not know why in-laws do this…Shaadi se phele tu they are all praises for you but soon after they start finding faults! I have no personal experience in this but my best friend went though it…Shaadi se phele between engagement and then Nikaah and later Rukhsati period her MIL was all praises for her and she would say herself how lucky she feels…but shaadi key baad my friend kept telling me how her MIL creates tension 24/7 and objects on everything…

Anyway this all is besides the point.

It must be very hurtful for you Sunset_Eyes! I wish I could just tell you to ignore their comments, that is not possible coz being humans no one can be so thick-skined! Ira is right
sulking by your self is not good for you. Bring it out to open, just tell them how their remarks/attitude bothers and hurts you. Ask them the reasons. And do it in your hubby’s presence so later they can’t twist your words around and make another issue out of it!

Good Luck!

I would love to bring it out in the open Choozy, but i just cant. Maybe i will but i dont know if i can do that at the moment. Slowly, i think its having a toll on me that i am retaliating back infront of husband but it comes around to me again when i am alone with them. This is why when i am on my own, i just do whatever i have to do and get out the room!