I feel so happy today. I’ve achieved something which was so difficult to do. I was always half way there, but not completely. Today I finally made it. It’s such a relieve.
I’m finally completely free from other peoples opinions. You see, it bothered me when people had the wrong idea about me. I taught myself not to care about that anymore. I had half reached it. Today I’m complete. For the first time in my life I really care nothing about them. And it’s like a burden has fallen from my shoulders!
If you are a person like I was, who cared about it if someone was mad at you for nothing, or if people had ideas about you which weren’t even true, and it made you feel sad, well, let it go. It really does help. It takes time to teach yourself to let it go a 100%, but once you get there, you feel so free.
I wonder though, why is it so hard to let go what others think about you? It took me a long time to really completely let it go.
becuz the first 10-20 yrs of our lives we are taught to care about it…so its embedded in the way we think…
by the way congrats! u’ve done a great deal for yourself…any move i have ever made in the direction of ‘not worrying abt what ppl think’ has ultimately brought happiness…
Wow, I didn’t even think about that one. I just wanted to share something positive. But now you mention it, it is true. Back to earth and off of my pink cloud…
Well, it’s actually complicated. Many reasons. In short a few:
tell yourself (allright I talk to myself, so what, big deal) you know who you are, you know what your heart is like, it doesn’t change just because someone has wrong ideas about you, never loose yourself in trying to please others, others will never be satisfied and you only end up miserable, and when you’re miserable people really have something to talk about
Allah watches you and knows what you’re like too, imagine the two angels on your shoulders acting as witnesses and in a way your companions, you’re never completely alone with them on your shoulders and Allah everywhere, imagine angels in your room when you’re praying
-and this really is helpful when there is danger of getting in a terrible argument or people trying to annoy you in one way or another, when you don’t answer back, the angels do it for you, that’s what I’ve understood from a hadith anyway: someone was scolding a sahaba (Abu Bakr [ra] I think, but I could be wrong, it’s been such a long time since I’ve paid much attention to ahadith, only have movies and some lesser amount of homework in my head…), the Prophet (pbuh) was with that sahaba and didn’t defend the sahaba, a man kept scolding the sahaba without stopping and in the end when the sahaba answered that man back, the Prophet (pbuh) stood up and left, the sahabi asked him why, the Prophet (pbuh) answered: when you were quiet, there was an angel answering that scolding man for you, but once you opened your mouth yourself, the angel left.
So when people try to fight you or annoy you deliberately try to picture angels answering them back for you. It doesn’t always work with me, I still end up saying stuff back sometimes unfortunately
not only do you know yourself what your heart is like, the people closest to you who truly care about you know it too, doesn’t that count the most? You don’t live with the others. They are mostly there to see you go down…
It just hit me when my children gave me drawings and said they were my diploma for being the best mum in the world, they said I was a silly joking mum and I should always be like that. That’s what counts, not what other people think or say.
Just be you and never forget your true self and never let other people make you believe stuff about you which isn’t true.
