my sis had a miscagre :o ..she was soo upset n down , its soo sad to see her like this .she is one of those ppl who never cry infront of anyone .. but yesterday she cried and i feel sad coz she never told me abt her pregnacy ..i mean i feel she is selfish coz she knew that how i wanted to be aunty , and she didnt told me anything at all ..it feel sooo bad ..like im no one …
when i asked her why she didnt told me nething she said " i have a lot of stuff to worry abt so dont get on my nerves plz " she s sooooooo rude sometimes…
I couldnt say anything at all .. i just went down n cried so much ..n then my bro in law asked me to stop crying n said she is upset thats y she is rude n that i should support her ..I feel sooo bad coz it wasnt my fault in ne way
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*Originally posted by Sandleen: *
my sis had a miscagre :o ..she was soo upset n down , its soo sad to see her like this .she is one of those ppl who never cry infront of anyone .. but yesterday she cried and i feel sad coz she never told me abt her pregnacy ..i mean i feel she is selfish coz she knew that how i wanted to be aunty , and she didnt told me anything at all ..it feel sooo bad ..like im no one ...
when i asked her why she didnt told me nething she said " i have a lot of stuff to worry abt so dont get on my nerves plz " she s sooooooo rude sometimes...
I couldnt say anything at all .. i just went down n cried so much ..n then my bro in law asked me to stop crying n said she is upset thats y she is rude n that i should support her ..I feel sooo bad coz it wasnt my fault in ne way :(
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She had a mis carriage and you're worried about her not telling you?
How stonehearted can you get?
What she lost and what she's going through is far greater than what you're feeling because she didn;t tell you..besides many people don't tell about their pregnancy until a while later...its the choice a couple makes together.
I can't believe at at the time of someone else's grief and pain you're making it seem like your the one in misery.
She had a mis carriage and you're worried about her not telling you?
How stonehearted can you get?
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i m worried coz she is my sis , and I feel we are not close enuff to share our happiness or sarrows wid each others ne more .. n just becz of some other family members she shouldnt ignore /forget her siblings like this ...n make us feel like we r some strangers who dosnt have any right to know anything at all .
stonehearted -...ahan
I understand your upset aswell ke why she didnt till you, but har cheez ka aik time hota hai. At this moment you need to support her, because she lost a baby. It s inapropriate to worry about why some one said or didnt say something
yeah I know but how can i support her ? tell me abt it !
I was there at her place in weekend and she didnt talked with me ..she was soo busy in watching tv n reading papers n talking with her friends on fone and i sat there for hours alone in living room .
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yeah I know but how can i support her ? tell me abt it !
I was there at her place in weekend and she didnt talked with me ..she was soo busy in watching tv n reading papers n talking with her friends on fone and i sat there for hours alone in living room .
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If you feel ke she s ok just give her best wishes and do your thing.
Leave and go back to your own life :)
i'm really really close to my sisters n above all my mom!....they are like my best friends....but even then i'm too shy to share this type of stuff with them ......everytime they found out themselves ....n i could never tell them .....n not to mention i'm the eldest in my siblings n how much they wanted to be aunty waghera.....!!
miscarriage is really a hard hard thing to cope with !
give your sis a break .....your brother in law is right ....leave your worries of not being close enough for sometime later !
i hope she will get better n i wish her the best in future !!!Allah miaN will give her courage to cope with this loss!amen !
well she is your sister and u should know what gets on her nerves
If not u can just sit chup and take a book with u and dont say anything unless your spoken to
Sandleen, I understand you are feeling hurt and confused as to why your sister didn’t even tell you that she was pregnant. I would be shocked and hurt too. However, you have to try and be there for your sister. She really needs you. I know you say you two aren’t very close, but maybe this is a chance for you two to become closer? Just try your best to support her. She may just be taking out her hurt and anger on you by saying that you are upsetting her. I’m sure you are not the one upsetting her. She’s going through a lot of mixed emotions right now and you have to try and remember this. You haven’t done anything wrong and ultimately, I’m sure your sister is aware of this.
MM thanx for pm ..yes ur right ..i am gonna visit her in 2 hours again n will stay there again like unwanted guest ..but lets see if i can help her in any way
Sandu, whatever her reasons were for not telling u, Its not sumthin to be brouht up at a tme liek this chanda cuz thats pprobably the last thing she needs to worry about compared to the great loss shes coping thru. Right now her mind, body n spririt is suffering mentally, physically n emotionally. Its natural to be sad, rude, bitter, n shutting out people when there is such a great loss and everyone has their own way of dealing with it. Just try giving her a bit of room if she needs it, but assure her u r there if she needs a shoulder to cry on or talk about it. U have to be the strong one here, and hold her hand thru this ordeal.
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when i asked her why she didnt told me nething she said " i have a lot of stuff to worry abt so dont get on my nerves plz " she s sooooooo rude sometimes...
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She has a point. If your child has just died inside of you then you'd have more important things on your mind than why you did not tell your sister.
At any rate, she probably did not tell you she was pregnant because she probably told no-one. Some people are very uncomfortable with letting others know that they are pregnant early in their pregnancy because that's the time when miscarriages are most likely - and they are worried about spreading the news they are pregnant only to have the child die before birth.
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She had a mis carriage and you're worried about her not telling you?
How stonehearted can you get?
What she lost and what she's going through is far greater than what you're feeling because she didn;t tell you..besides many people don't tell about their pregnancy until a while later...its the choice a couple makes together.
I can't believe at at the time of someone else's grief and pain you're making it seem like your the one in misery.
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How can a girl not tell her mom and sisters that she is pregnant...
I mean I understand that mostly people don't tell outside the family or far relatives and friends....and maybe hide it from your in-laws (guys parents/family) But why would a girl not trust her own mother and sisters about her pregnancy? Don't take me wrong but I am just shocked...
Girls' mothers are usually a great support for their pregnant daughters and advice them on what to do and what not to do.
Ohfo U guys dont have any idea abt what kind of realtionship we have ..she is kind of private person and its fine with me ..but I am hurt coz she know that very well that how mad i am abt kids and have always asked her abt it .. and all of her friends and in laws knew that ..thats y i felt so bad n left out ... but its okay now ... i was there in evening talked with her , she is better now ..neways .. thanx for replies
..but lets see if i can help her in any way