I wanted to know something because I have seen it happen so many times when I am talking to a guy. I feel too shy to ask this to my male friends directly so thought I’d ask here, and here I can get different views as well.
I was sitting at my work desk yesterday and one of my coworkers came into my office and sat down infront of me and started talking about Europe.
In the middle of the conversation, he puts his hand to the front of his pants and does something. Tobah hai, I feel so shy even mentioning this. I looked because I have a habit of watching peoples eyes and hands/arms when they talk. I dont think he noticed the expression on my face because he did it a few more times. Now that I think back, I’ve seen quite a few guys do this.
Why is this done, and do guys not notice they are doing this in public view? Do you think its appropriate to do this in the middle of conversation? I really didnt know what to think. This is the first time I have had the courage to ask this, so please dont mind. I dont mean to be crude, just curious.
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*Originally posted by Munni: *
In the middle of the conversation, he puts his hand to the front of his pants and does something
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There are a number of events down there that may require attention. To answer your question in more detail, an explanation of what (out of a range of potential actions) he did is required.
Munni, like Mad Scientist said, it could be many things that prompted him to do that. But nonetheless, I think it's a bad habit, especially while you're talking to someone.
right. what exactly did he do? i understand it may be hard for you to say but atleast we are not infront of you.
i don't do anything like that in public and i don't like when other guys do it as well. but sometimes i guess they have to do it if it's itching there or sometimes the underwear raises it and it feels like as if the man has an erection, while in actuallity he does not. so they have to fix it. or it could be various other reasons.
let me say it straight out then, are we talking abt men adjusting themselves in public? I think most girls agree (at least the ones i know) that its gross. I never understood why men do it in front of everyone. If we're not, and im mistaken. Well then i still think that is gross.
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let me say it straight out then, are we talking abt men adjusting themselves in public? I think most girls agree (at least the ones i know) that its gross. I never understood why men do it in front of everyone. If we're not, and im mistaken. Well then i still think that is gross.
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on a more serious note.. i dont think anyone does it to offend the other person .. its just that if they wouldnt adjust themselves then there will be more colorful comments from women .. its a lose lose situation.. :) and i dont understand how does it different than women adjusting their bra when it climbs up or when the strap is sliding down or its showing from outside.. i have seen plenty of girls/women do it in public when they think nobody is looking.. its just a matter of being comfortable.. nothing wrong with it i think.. just my .02 cents.. :)
To be honest I have been avoiding replying to this thread knowing that you have asked a more detailed question and I really didnt want to give details. I dont really know how to explain it. It looked as if he "swiped/lifted" the area. At different intervals/times within the conversation. Geez, I cant believe I am explaining this. sad face No more questions regarding what I saw pleaseeeee. I just want to know why its done and if its appropriate in public. I didnt know whether to be disgusted or if its "normal".
then he must be in an uncomfortable position. like i said before and some other guys above mentioned it too......it's better than giving you the wrong idea that he's aroused. sometimes the underwear just lifts it and men have to fix it. they don't do it to offend anyone. if they do it on purpose, you can tell that by looking at their face.
one day i was walking. when i walk, i look down on the ground and after a while lift my head to look if anyone is infront of me or any obstacle is in my way. anyway, i lifted my head up and looked at this girl, when she lookde at me, she touched her "chest" and started to scratch it and while she was doing it, it was moving up and down. that was disgusting to me.
the point is: sometime men or women HAVE TO do it because of various reasons.
on a more serious note.. i dont think anyone does it to offend the other person .. its just that if they wouldnt adjust themselves then there will be more colorful comments from women .. its a lose lose situation.. :) and i dont understand how does it different than women adjusting their bra when it climbs up or when the strap is sliding down or its showing from outside.. i have seen plenty of girls/women do it in public when they think nobody is looking.. its just a matter of being comfortable.. nothing wrong with it i think.. just my .02 cents.. :)
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OK valid point - but to a certain extent. adjusting a bra is very different from the.... private parts isn't it.
By the way i can't stand it when a guy - or girl - pick out their wedgie. Just handle it while you can and wait till you get to the bathroom or so.
Pubic area itches sometimes, and you gotta take care of it...
Men do it publicly, since there is no stigma against it...we women dont speak out against it, and the guys dont feel its improper (the ones that do it at least)
Women do it too - except we go to the restroom and take care of it.
And there is an expressed social stigma against women doing it
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It looked as if he "swiped/lifted" the area. At different intervals/times within the conversation.
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Sounds like he wore uncomfortable underwear that day. He could have at least dealt with it in private though, or at the very least inserted his hand casually into his pocket, waited 20 seconds or so, and then very slowly, very descretely corrected the problem without being so overt about it. The way he openly dealt with the difficulty was just plain uncouth.
IT'S A GUY THING, AND MEN HAVE BEEN DOIN THIS FOR AS LONG AS EXISTENCE.
And here is what you need to do to stop it, next time just say that it ofends you and hope fully he'll take care of it somewhere else.
I mean its just as bad as if he was farting infront of you or picking his nose..if i have to adjust it..i wouldnt just do it in public..specially if i was talking to someone..what are our pockets for?
