Exam time is a lonely time anyway, friends are busy etc etc
But I am on placement in a town with a small group of people who I dont know that well although I get on with everyone.
I have tried to ask groups of people to get together to have some study sessions and discussions and they all seem to want to work alone which is fine. I just relaly benefit from group discussion but I am going to have to work round it.
Anyway I was talking to this really nice girl who I have become friends with, she has been in a relationship for 4 years, she is also a final year medical student as is her boyfriend and we randomly got chatting and then she was jsut telling me how she and her bf drive around and find somehwere nice for dinner every night and they spend 2-3 hours discussing topics every night etc and she was just saying how nice it is to have him on this placement because she doesnt feel alone.
And suddenly I feel so lonely, away from parents and friends and with exams no life and I dont forsee meeting anyone ‘special’ soon.
I dont really have a question but I just thought I would sulk on here, maybe ask some advice about how to not feel so sad and lonely and get through this tough and stressful period.
People go through good times and rough times. Often your surrounded by people you love and at times you will just have to buck up and handle these lonely times. Keep yo chin up and just think of this as an experience that will make you a stronger individual with alot less dependancy on others, which is a good thing. When you're feeling really lonely, just think of the big picture. Its a hard time now, but good times will come soon =]
What are your thoughts on getting married? Your friend appears to be inside an unlawful relationship which she seems to be plastering over or rather modelling as a synthetic marriage. Being inside such a relationship is not good, there are many doors available for it to collapse at any moment, which is less likely to happen inside a real marriage. Go for the better option and uphold your self respect.
With regards to being bored, i understand your situation. What i would suggest however is that you find a hobby that will not lead you away from completing your objectives. Read some religious books, phone your family and friends, read the joke section of your newspaper, exercise etc.
Have you thought about revising in an alternative way, say something that you would find more interesting? Try and look for online videos to help you with studying, or online forums for you to discuss that particular subject (as you informed us your study group preferred independant revision).
What are your thoughts on getting married? Your friend appears to be inside an unlawful relationship which she seems to be plastering over or rather modelling as a synthetic marriage. Being inside such a relationship is not good, there are many doors available for it to collapse at any moment, which is less likely to happen inside a real marriage. Go for the better option and uphold your self respect.
For people who know me on here yeah I am up for getting married, its finding the right one that is a big issue, she is sikh and so its not unlawful for her really
With regards to being bored, i understand your situation. What i would suggest however is that you find a hobby that will not lead you away from completing your objectives. Read some religious books, phone your family and friends, read the joke section of your newspaper, exercise etc.
*I am not bored I am too busy/stressed to be bored I am just lonely because life is tough and my parents are far away and I crave a person who will be there for me like her bf *
Have you thought about revising in an alternative way, say something that you would find more interesting? Try and look for online videos to help you with studying, or online forums for you to discuss that particular subject (as you informed us your study group preferred independant revision).
*I have to revise like the WHOLE of medicine I cant just pick a subject i like. *
we all want a companion, i do too, but is it really worth depressing over? Besides maintaing a relationship is not a piece of cake either. Good luck on ur exam and enjoy ur singlehood while u can! :k:
For people who know me on here yeah I am up for getting married, its finding the right one that is a big issue, she is sikh and so its not unlawful for her really
No time like now to start looking! And yes i suppose for her its perfectly fine to be doing what she is, although i think even in their religion it is not allowed.
I am not bored I am too busy/stressed to be bored I am just lonely because life is tough and my parents are far away and I crave a person who will be there for me like her bf
Use this time to make yourself stronger, as you may be on your own again in future placements. Learn to cope with being alone, and stay in contact with your family on a regular basis.
I have to revise like the WHOLE of medicine I cant just pick a subject i like.
I have studied myself. Each year has different topics which branch deeper for example anatomy etc. Obviously you will not find all your information inside 1 video, but if there is something you find difficult you can search that specific thing for example when studying ecg's or as some say 'ekg'.
When I get these bouts of loneliness...I allow myself a little bit of it and then squash it. Because you're not alone inspi. You have family, friends and you will have a SO that will care for you as well Inshallah. They're just not with you physically. So you're not really alone...just away for a bit.
My suggestion is to do something nice for yourself...anything. Do something that makes you happy and you'll be fine. This is a time in your life you have to get through but once you make it...you'll be so proud of yourself.
Life without downs and ups means you are not taking any chances, not exploring anything new. This down period is a precursor to many up periods to come. It will make you stronger and ready to appreciate the good times that are just around the corner.
I know you have exams so you can't spend too much time socialising/having a hobby, but maybe just pamper yourself/watch some filums/harass a few neighbours?
Also, exercise is a good idea too, it can be quite motivating once you get yourself started!
We all are lonely if you come to think of it.........our parents will die......siblings go away and have their own lives......... friends go bak to whoever they have........ at the end of the day.....you are alone Always........... better to realise it.
We all are lonely if you come to think of it.........our parents will die......siblings go away and have their own lives......... friends go bak to whoever they have........ at the end of the day.....you are alone Always........... better to realise it.
yeah parents will die.
siblings go away.
friends go back too
but at the end of the day your hubby/wife will be with you.
Aslam u Alkum same feeling here or may be worst than you, at least you have friend and parent around you, and you just feel alone when they are not front of you.
But what about others? Who don’t have friends and family round them, and they are far from their beloved and live alone. Well I feel every night the same feeling,
The question how to get rid of such feeling?
If you are single not in relation, its bit difficult, what I do ,I just lay down on bed, switch off lights, close my eyes, and start to think about past events, good memories, old friends, any university or college trip, conversation with parents siblings etc... some time its work and bring smile on face ,
You also try hope It will work.