Ok, as I was discussing in my previous threads, me & my cousins somehow managed to get my dad become serious about my marriage. We had told him about this guy. So, i had told this guy too that i had talked to my dad regarding him & within few days, i would try getting a date for him so that he could visit our home with parents. But, what’s surprising is that, after knowing that, whenever i would call him, he would hardly answer my calls. I would keep on calling & calling but at most of the times he wouldn’t answer. And when he would answer, i would ask him the reason, he would tell me for the next 3 weeks he will be really busy with work, etc! I told him what if my dad wanted to talk to him & if he had given me a date & if i tried calling him infront of him, he wouldn’t answer then it would make my dad go suspicious and all! But still nothing really fell to his ears. After this discussion, the next day i would call him many times throughout day & then evening but he wouldn’t answer. It made me go quite mad. The next day when i called him in the afternoon, he did answer my call & when i asked him that even if he was busy at times when i had called, didn’t he have courtesy to call back when he had time!? I told him what if there was something urgent and serious. And he was like, he didn’t ask me to call him again and again 
:(. Then i got angry and i told him that, fine enough, i wouldn’t call him again then! Then a week went by, and then he sent me a text, saying, he loves me blah blah blah and said he wanted to meet me to see out a plan, as he hinted that his dad is declining to meet & if i talked to his dad, he could agree. I couldn’t really understand what he meant! He had written this also that, if he didn’t get to hear from me, he would think it as a breakup from my side and would never bother me again. I was already pissed, so i didn’t reply to him. Later he tried contacting me again and i told him that, he had proved to me again and again that how much he loves me, etc, so just leave me alone, etc! And after that, i didn’t get to hear from him. I tried calling him after couple of days, he didn’t answer my calls. A week went by. I tried calling him today also, but he doesn’t answer my calls. He has even blocked my sms and even my sms messages don’t reach him :(. I feel so helpless. There’s just no way for me to reach him. It’s not that i would visit him in his office or home, but i don’t even know his home and office addresses.
What I don’t understand is that, why is he doing like this? Does that mean he never wanted to marry & ran away when my dad did get serious? What does his silence mean? I left him IM messages, asking him that, if his silence means breakup, then please let me know openly so that i can move on. But still no reply. What you people think, what does his this behaviour say? Does that mean is it his coward way of running away without giving a closure? Or does that mean that he just wants to keep ways open for him, just incase if he wants to come back? In the past also he had gone into silence mode & then had come back, saying he was busy with work, admitted to hospital, etc but he had never taken so long as this time.
What should i do? How do i get closure if it’s already over? :(.
Re: I feel helpless...
You don't need to do anything. You can't anyway if you can't contact him.
Just move on and take flower-arranging classes in the meantime or something.
Re: I feel helpless...
You don't need to do anything. You can't anyway if you can't contact him. Just move on and take flower-arranging classes in the meantime or something.
But I don't understand why does he have to behave like this! It shows perhaps he is just being too coward!!!
Re: I feel helpless...
just ignore him
Re: I feel helpless...
what mad hatter said
Re: I feel helpless...
what mad hatter said
I am confused that what should i do! Shall i just write to him & break up or just move on with my life without bothering to write to him anything? Please help!
Re: I feel helpless...
Its obvious he doesn't want to get married to you, why are you oblivious to it. Write or don't write, you need to move on.
Re: I feel helpless...
you can't take a HINT...can you? obviously, he isn't interested in marrying you...he may be very well interested in YOU! that's it!
Re: I feel helpless…
Not interested to marry me, but interested in me!?
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I am confused that what should i do! Shall i just write to him & break up or just move on with my life without bothering to write to him anything? Please help!
There is nothing to be confused about. He has made his feelings very clear by blocking you and not responding to your calls/messages. There is no reason to write him anything. It will be hard but you need to move on with your life.
Re: I feel helpless...
Like everyoen else said. Move on, you don't even need to clarify anything because its plenty clear.
Re: I feel helpless...
He is not interested in you.
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Okay, but what i don't understand is that, why does he have to act like a jerk & coward like this! Why can't he be man enough & talk it out & end things? Isn't that a proper way?
Re: I feel helpless…
means he is interested in your friendship and keep you as his ‘pass-time’! 
Re: I feel helpless...
means he is interested in your friendship and keep you as his 'pass-time'! :(
And is that the reason he isn't being clear about things? To keep his way open.....?
Re: I feel helpless...
Sometimes people don't get that closure they are looking for, that final talk or whatever. You have to take control over the situation and come to terms that it's over. That can be your closure, and will then help you to move on. It takes time, but you can do it.
Re: I feel helpless...
Sometimes people don't get that closure they are looking for, that final talk or whatever. You have to take control over the situation and come to terms that it's over. That can be your closure, and will then help you to move on. It takes time, but you can do it.
:(
Re: I feel helpless...
If you believe that he's a jerk and a coward (as you have said several times), then why do you want to spend the rest of your life with him when you don't hold him in high regard?
Do you want to be with the guy who WANTS to marry you and pursued you....OR.... do you want to marry the guy whom YOU had to beg/force/pressure into sending a rishta to your home? Which situation carries greater izzat for you and your family?
Re: I feel helpless…
yeh sab dil ke haiN mo’aamile, jiskaa
'izzat se koii vaasta bhii nahiiN! 
I feel helpless...
I say you tell him it's off and end it there. It'll save you from heart ache over and over again. And how can you even want to contact him after he's been ignoring you so much??! You deserve better. Not someone like him. If he wanted to marry you, both of you would be preparing for it right now.
Tell him ta taa and move in with your life