I feel guilty

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I feel so very very guilty… let me explain.
Well I am pregnant and had a spot bleeding earlier this week due to which I am not allowed to travel for a few days. The thing is that i am at my parents place right now (abroad) and wont make it 2 the engagement ceremony of my husbands sister. We informed my husband but not his mother (mistake), well i thought that he’ll pass on the news to her…

When my parents called up again she said that she was shocked to know that i am not going to be there on the mangni and that she didnt have a clue that i wont be coming… not even that im not allowed to travel.

I am scared that she’ll kill me when i’ll be back… coz she is the kind who loves to scold and defame me sometimes :bummer:

We’ll try calling her 2morrow again (tried to call before since 3 days but could not get through).
What should i doooooooo… how am i supposed to explain things to her?? How can i make her learn that travelling would have been and still is risky 4 me??

The doctor asked me 2 take complete bed rest but i am really tense!

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tauba hai now u have to give a doctor's note to family members too?

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should i get a written application written 4 her?? man i dont want her 2 feel that We didnt want her to know. It wasnt intentional :(

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don't think about it too much, its not good for you. take it easy, get your husband to talk to her, it'll be ok.

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she must be so angry at me :crying: I am scared coz she can really be mean when she’s in anger. I hope and pray that she 4gives me.

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its ok. your hubby should fess up and say he forgot to tell her so. and tell her you can fax a doctor’s note…she’ll understand…she should…

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what the? u are SCARED of her?

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Just ask ur m-i-l if she prefers ur participation in the engagement over having a grandchild. As for her getting angry cos of u not informing her, well ur husband should step in and take the responsibility, afterall he did know didn;t he?

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im scared coz she defames me sometimes and i get hurt. Im pregnant... cant afford stress... especially after spotting occured.

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its a friggin engagement not a wedding. your health and your baby's is more important!! DO NOT FEEL GUILTY.

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reason #2 not to go

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thnx im feeling alot better now… i wish i could “live” online thnx 2 ppl who make me feel better and seem 2 understand things :hug:

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Boyyy some saas are really wiche's anywayz dont take to much tension if you speak to
ur hubby again say to him to explain her (his mom) everything why you can't travel.

Canadian / Amreekan guppies...
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any why exactly do you feel guilty again?

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You know, this really pisses me off. When I was pg with my first, it was SO hard-won, injectible fertility meds and all. WHen in my 10th week I got sick, doc said complete bedrest. I did not comply because we had company from overseas. To this day, I'm dealing with all kinds of speech therapists, Occupational therapists, physical therapists and I could go on. Not that this in particular caused the problems but hey man - LISTEN to your docs, if they say bedrest, then HIT THE BED. I learned the hard way and will pay for it for the rest of my life. And so will my son. Dont get me wrong...he is the sunshine of my life....but if I could have spared him any of these troubles, I very well should have.

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Your baby is more important than any other hoo-haa in your family. Period.

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^ Yep...tell her or get ur husband to tell her the real reason...rite now she doesn't know about ur health, probably that's y she's cross.

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worrying about her is another risk.

She is just a human i am sure when you will explain it to her she will understand. If she doesn't i will simply go woman go fudge with yourself.

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why is ur hubby quiet on this??? he is supposed to explain things from ur side...i think ur mom-in-law would understand it well if he explains.

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my prayers are with u, :insha: things will be alright. Dil pe mat le yaar, relax!