im getting married this year as everyone knows, god ive posted enough about it.
thing is im getting really scared now. i guess it could be cold feet and most people get it. its not the fiance, its just the marriage.i cant do it but its all ready now. i feel scared about going to peshawar to get hitched, most people i know are moving out of peshawar to go islamabad etc, but my in laws dnt want to go anywhere else. they love it there and have family there so are not willing to move...im too scared about the halaat there. i wont be moving there now, im coming back to the uk for about a year or 18months then we gna move to pak peshawar with his family....who are already there.
its not that they are not well off, they are, its just they dnt wana move out.
im not looking forward to anything at the moment.
Relax. It's just, like faaari said, a case of cold feet.
If it makes you feel better, I was in the same boat as you. I lived in the USA (born & raised) and got married to my now husband, who was born, raised and lived in Peshawar all his life....went to Peshawar, got married and stayed there. I'm back in the USA at the moment - just got here a week back.
I promise you, it's not as bad as you think. "Halaat" are definitely there, but they are sensationalized by the media. So put that out of your mind. Whatever happens, that's in God's hands.
But if you're scared about the actual marriage - do you know this guy? Do you trust him? Is his family good to you? That's all that matters in the end. Talk to him. Be open with him. Don't hide your feelings or thoughts - that's the best way to make sure your marriage is successful.