Re: I dont want to get married.
Nadz123,
You must have had some idea about the after-marriage living arrangements when your cousin's parents proposed the rishta.....................so you had all that time to think about things and even cancel the rishta.
But now.....wedding preparations are in full swing and it would create a sticky situation to back out of the marriage now.......especially since your cousin has been working in the UK and living under the same roof with you for so long. You are right, it could be cold feet. I've seen girls get nervous a few days prior to the wedding....and it's perfectly normal. Even girls who won't be moving to Pakistan and who will be getting married to a guy that lives in the same city as them.....FREAK OUT. It's not an uncommon reaction. Part of your worries have to do with cold feet.
The other part of your problems has A LOT to do with you not implementing the simple advice that many guppies have been giving you since DAY 1....when you first starting posting on GS. And that simple advice is : TALK TO HIM. It can do wonders.
And please don't makes excuses such as , "Oh I can't talk to him because then he'll remind me of all that he's done for me".......or "My parents and his parents will be so upset at me and they'll disown me from the family"............yada yada yada. Sometimes there is only ONE WAY to go about resolving issues: COMMUNICATING.
Talk to your fiance, hon. You're going to be living with this man for the rest of your life....you can bare your soul to him. Let him see how scared, nervous, and worried you are. And that will make him realize that you are indeed seriously concerned about the living arrangements. And from your previous posts, I gather that he loves you very much. And to comfort you........he might even work out a compromise with you. But you won't know unless you don't talk to him.
I think deep down you know that communicating with him is the solution.....but for some reason you're hesitating......and you're hoping that the people on Gupshup will give you some other magical advice besides "talking to him". But I'm letting you know now.......most of the guppies will advise you to "talk to him." Even if you decide to cancel the rishta all together...........you can't take that step without "talking to him". And that's exactly what you need to to. We can't come up with any other alternative advice that does not involve communication with your fiance. Because that is the only logical thing to do.