Perhaps the most crushing words a person can hear from their significant other…after years of struggling and settling down…This article is really interesting, here the wife fights against pretty much every instinct and “expected” behaviour. Instead of leaving her husband or letting him leave her and the family, she keeps quiet and let’s him sort out his own personal crisis.
I don’t know how effective the author’s methods may be for everyone, but one thing for sure, it requires A LOT of patience that can come probably only after years of being married.
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This is why I have always stood by my ' love does not exist' claim. People hoy it around as if its something so...erm (its 01.45 and I am at a loss for words) but you know what I mean.
I had a friend go through this, not married for 25 years, but she gave up 8 years of her life for some stupid wanker of a bloke and he just turned around and said he didnt love her anymore...no valid reason. Completely destroyed her.
Maroush you are so funny This article is not bad its just telling us how to deal with bad situations and be strong and don’t cry like an emotional fool.:
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Excellent. This is something from the article that I'm pasting:
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And I saw what had been missing: pride. He’d lost pride in himself. Maybe that’s what happens when our egos take a hit in midlife and we realize we’re not as young and golden anymore.
When life’s knocked us around. And our childhood myths reveal themselves to be just that. The truth feels like the biggest sucker-punch of them all: it’s not a spouse or land or a job or money that brings us happiness. Those achievements, those relationships, can enhance our happiness, yes, but happiness has to start from within. Relying on any other equation can be lethal.
My husband had become lost in the myth. But he found his way out. We’ve since had the hard conversations. In fact, he encouraged me to write about our ordeal. To help other couples who arrive at this juncture in life. People who feel scared and stuck. Who believe their temporary feelings are permanent. Who see an easy out, and think they can escape. My husband tried to strike a deal. Blame me for his pain. Unload his feelings of personal disgrace onto me.
But I ducked. And I waited. And it worked.
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Beautifully said.
Therefore, it is of utmost important to always strive toward something. Don't ever be without a goal, and the spouse should become a cheerleader for the other.
We think that divorce or changing/adding a spouse, or leaving home in search for green pastures will be the solution...in most cases, people don't even give it a real honest shot before they give up.
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I read this a few days ago,when someone posted it on FB…and I actually liked it…
I am not saying that I would have responded in a similar way if God forbid I ever had to,but the whole thing was really a well written piece…:k:
This article is not bad its just telling us how to deal with bad situations and be strong and don’t cry like an emotional fool.: