Last year, I couldn’t careless when I was getting married. I always left it up to Allah (SWT) & made dua for all other things in life & for the hereafter. & i used to tell all my friends/aquaintances the same thing…not to worry.
But lately, I have completely changed. I’m only 23, but i feel so old, like my time is up. & that i want to get married. Maybe it has to do with the fact that all others in my community/family are set, even those who are much younger than me. & the fact that i have helped/ am helping others plan their weddings?
I dont like this feeling!!! I wanna be the carefree girl I used to be!!! Any advice? Anyone with this problem?
It's all in your mind- do things you like to do - pursue your education while you're still young - get whatever degrees you'd like to get. Think of it as time off before you start marriage life - so take advantage of it.
** PCG ** yes i know its in my mind. & i am going to school persuing my masters. i have a goal for my education/career. but it still doesnt seem to stop my heart from these annoying thoughts.
& as for being in the game, i hate those other girls who make me feel so old for not being set yet!!! darn HATERS!
i think when everyone around you (much younger than you ) seems married and settled.. then you do begin to panic. but everything happens as Allah SWT wishes. have you talked to any of these younger girls.. (I used to be in the same situation and they always said STAY SINGLE AS LONG AS U CAN!!)
Enjoy it, before you know it, you'l be married with the little buggers biting your ankles and a husband who wants his tea on the table when he gets in from work ! (NOT NICE!!)
I can totally relate to how u feel!! I never worried about marriage but there were tons of people in my extended family who were so worried about when I woudl get married.....and I would jsut get caught up in the hoopla of worrying....but in the end i was engaged and married within 6 monthes...when I was 25....and since then...I have regreted every single second I spent worrying about this junk....... because I could have spent that time doing so many different things.... now I have a list of things I should have done before marriage and didnt !! If you want some ideas I shall send u my list...
I used to get the same advice before marriage, and I would always think its easier said then done...and when you are in that boat its hard to concentrate on alot of other things....but everything happens in its own time.... AND 23 you are tooooooooooo young to be worried about this!!!!
** Muniya ** im tryin hard not to let it take me over :)
** Mem Saab ** yes i think ur right about the others. & yes i did talk to the others... but they dont say anything like that. they just raise their eyebrows at me like im a freak. or start givin me suggestions like putting myself in ads or online.... which im opposed to for myself.
there was this girl in my community who got married in her lateeee 20s & everyone was like MAN SHE WAS SOOOOO OLD, she NEEDED to get married.
plus there are all those dumb people who start freaking you out, by saying if you wait too long than there will be no good ones left & you will have to settle. & that i might as well just choose now, is there something wrong with having standards?
Petal you have nothing to worry about! im nearly 23 and for once in my life my family hasnt even mentioned the word marriage, iv been hearing since i was 14.
All my younger girl mates are getting married or popping sprogs, and sometimes it doesnt seem fair, but love, thats life. It's not your time, you shouldn't rush into marriage.
Snap out of it woman...chill and enjoy your life how it is right now. Your not married yet as its not your time, everything happens for a reason and we don't get a choice of when things happen to us. Youv probably got more important things going on in your life right now, concentrate on them..and don't wish for something to happen as it almost never does...
Theres no point in saying don't think about this, as being an asian girl, its slightly integral to your life, but concentrate on what you have now.
hey it feels great to be marriageable ;)...this is one thing u cant worry enough on!.....enjoy the feeling....u dont want to be umarried at 35 and still feeling all snooty that u at least didnt worry enuff!.....worry on.....:)
