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Well Well Well. Today, as u all probably know by now, was my birthday. And at the end of the day i am left very frustrated and angered. Do i hear u ask WHY???
Well because apart from these threads on gupshup and a friend and my chacha no one wished me. Do u realize what that means? But it means that if there was no gupshup only 2 people would’ve wished me. Is that the sign of a loser???
I spent most of the day at school. But when at home i was checking my mail every 5 minutes. Hoping for a few greetings. But greetings would’ve outshone my dark life and therefore were not destined for me today.
Now i am not under-stating the impact of the warm wishes i got from my fellow guppies. In todays lonely moments these few wishes from “unknown” guppies ensured that precious tears were not wasted on my bday.
I turned 20 today. I’ve left the teen years. And I am forced to think back upon my 20 years. What have I achieved??? I’ve lived a live of invisibility. Where today people refused to see me. They refused to accept my existance. I’m invisible??? Or am I better off dead??
On a day when i got out of bed very happy, i found that my happines was short-lived. Because people have started to hate me so much that they refuse to accept me as a human, they refuse to share my happiness, my sorrows and my worries.
I’m forced to think about how people see me? And i’m confronted with a variety of thoughts. And i ask myself am I a pessimist???. The reply comes from the depths of my heart that ** no I am not the pessimist but the rest of the world is pessimist because they only see my negative part, and refuse to appreciate the few positive traits I may possess**.
Yeah, you are right. I am complaining about stupid b-day greetings. But do you realize how much that means to an individual. At my level of maturity I don’t expect a super-bday-party or awesome gifts. But the two words on this special day would be more precious to me than diamonds are too women. But today was special ONLY to me. To most people I know it’s probably a day they would like to forget, or rather even erase from the Gregorian calendar.
And no I am not only complaining about greetings, but life as a whole. Where your feelings have no value. Your happiness, your sorrows, your pain, your joy, your opinions have even less value than trash that is thrown out each night. Am I a pessimist?? No, the rest of the world is pessimist because…
This is getting long. I don’t even know why i’m posting this. But i have to vent my anger out somewhere. Or should i just let it sit inside me?? To most of you this is too long to read, and u won’t read it. That is good. Please don’t read this. I don’t want fellow guppies hating me too. I’m sounding confused aren’t I??
I don’t even know where to post this. I was going to post it as a reply to my bday thread opened by Completely Incomplete. But I think now I will post it in the family and health section.
I would like to thank you personally for the thread Completely Incomplete. And even if you are a Certified Pagal then i must say you are way better than a lot of people I know.

Hanie jee. I’m stealing your signature:
**Jab uthe mera Janaaza
Shehnaayiyan bajaana… **
Balkeh choro. Shehnayan bajanay mayn bhi aapki energy zaya hogi.

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OAY HOAY HOAY dewana tera :teary2: :flower2: :hug: meray chotay bhai please itna udaas mat ho :flower2:

itnay gehre jazbaat, itna ghamgeen mizaaj? i can completely understand what you are saying and if i were in your place i might have felt like that too or even worse…par pehli baat ye hae ke this is an exaggerration of the situation…saalgirah na wish kerne ka matlub ye thori hae ke aap ko koi pyaar naheen kerta :~) aisa toh aksar logon ke saath hota hae is mein itnaaa udaas honay kee kya zaroorat hae? :~)

be brave meray bhai, zindagi mein aisa bhee hota hay kabhee kabhee :~) har baat ko itna seriously lo ge toh zindagi kaisay katay gee? :~) logon se expectations mat rakhein aur jis ne jitna kar dya usi se khush rahayn warna aap hi sad hon ge…koi faida nahee…aur aisi har giz koi baat naheen ke aap ko koi pyaar naheen kerta…aisa toh sochna bhee un logon ke saath bewafai hae jo aap ko pyaar kerte hon maslan aap ke ghar waalay :~) try to remember the times when people were there for you :~) i am sure you will find many such instances.. :~)

waise toh insaan duniya mein aata bhee akela hae aur jata bhee akela hae, bas ik KHUDA hae jo har wakt us ke saath hota hae…Usi sae lo lagayein bass :~) i know its difficult though :~)

take things easy, zaada socha mat karein, woh bhee is tarhaa ke khayalaat :~) divert ur attention to other things and make an effort to be happy :~) ok??? :smash:

ab chorein in baaton ko aur hassi khushi rahein :~)

:flower1: for you :~)

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AwWWw :slight_smile: .. Common MannnNnn … dont u kno they all love u?!? :hoonh: i mean okay.. this might b a lil stupid birthday greetings.. but think about it as an outsider for a while… wut if mayb they missed it for sum reason… mayb they hav sum huge problem botherin them .. mayb they r worrying over sumthin . u never kno.. rite? .. or mayb m just too optimistic… anyway … i kno it feels worse when u r alone… n u think nobody cares… it hurts :teary1:

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Oh cummon yaar, cheer up..
Its really not a big deal.. look at it this way.

Just because no one wished you, doesnt mean they dont love you or care for you.

And It they did wish you, you think that would all come true..?

Other thing is a professor said during a lecture few years ago: that you people celebrate you birthday, or do you celebrate the fact that you lost another year of your life..??? :eek:

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actually I would say it may be a big deal..
why should soemone wish anyone, just because they are related..because one has to? or because they want to..

now do you want people to wish because they have to. u know that they are not always sincere, but they are doign it because its expected.. I personally dont want any of those.

coming to the other part...wishing someone because they want to..
I would call my parents and my siblings, my friends, send cards etc. I want to congratulate them on their birthday, and will do it, and if by chance i did not get to it..just forgot, was too busy and remembered later, i would feel real bad and call as soon as I can.

So you have to have more of the sincere ppl who want to wish you a happy birthday etc. How do you get there..make good friends, be close to family members, develop sincere personal relationships with ppl.

Another piece is ppl who you may be close to, but dont know that you want them to send u cards etc on yer bday, and if they were with u, they would take part in all celebrations but since theya re not they may not be the card sending types.

Lastly, there may be people who could be very sincere but just not into this stuff. I have pals who dunn call me on my bday, I dunn call them on theirs cuz to us its not a big deal..if it was a big deal we would call one another, but we call each other regularly anyways, or as often as we can. Birthday is just not a big deal either for me or for them. But i know if I needed their help, they would be on the next flight over..and I would do the same.

so my advise, have more sincre ppl around you, build better and closer personal relationships with people, and dont worry too much about formal stuff..think back, how many ppl have u not sent a card too, is it because they dont really matter to you, or sending a card does not really matter..

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Cheer up mate. It's a new day now.

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Re: I don’t know what to put as the subject.

:teary2: why didn’t find this out before :crying: well thanx alot :flower1: u r much better than most ppl i knwo too..

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:wave:

I know what you mean…:)…when it was my b-day some guppies(even those i didn’t know) pm ed me to say happy b-day…you know what they were the only one who gave me that greeting…my family members didn’t even remember it was my bday until i reminded them at night before bed when the day was about to finish…:slight_smile:

Dont even ask about my friends..no one cared…whatever don’t let these things affect you…probably you would feel down for a few days but then look around you will find yourself fortunate…it’s not about being loved or not…you see…at least that’s what i think…I feel like a pessimist all the time…once a teacher who checked my compositions said i was…:frowning:

Take care and don’t feel bad…you are a nice person..seriously..:flower1:…so if you feel bad sometimes dig up this thread…:p…I don’t know but i hope i make some sense to you…

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strange.........!!!!!!
is it really such a big issue.......???

i don't wish anybody on birthdays but that really doesn't mean i don't love/care them ........!!!!

what i do is .........usually i try to complete my Quraan recitation in 30 days........n at the end i pray for all muslims generally n .....specially for those loved ones who were born or died in this month.......n i think its much better n sincere way.......!!!!!

anyway its your own choice........n ithink fraudia explained it in much better way.........!!!!!!

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I don't know what to put as the subject.

try 'im a loser'

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Is this the post where dt was complaining he didn't get people to wish him his birthday? Awww.. thats sad. DT.. Happy Birthday, dude.

ps. My birthday is coming up, so u can return the favor then. :)

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:-)

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Dt HAppy Birthday :flower2: lakiN hai kab ? :confused:

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Re: I don’t know what to put as the subject.

DT: anger sometimes eats up your beautiful thougths… sometimes, we don’t recognize how much other person has love and admiration for us and out of ignorance we end up hurting or ignoring others…

you should not have deleted such a nice post…

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Re: I don’t know what to put as the subject.

:teary1:
:crying:
:teary2:
:teary3:

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Dt…:eek:…what happened?..what’s the editing for?..some people don’t understand :disgust: just don’t bother with them…:mad:…kis nay kaya kah?